are those who say they do not know why they did what they did. My H has been home now for about 1.5 months. The ow moved away and there is no way the physical relationship continues, hopeful there is no other contact. Either way, he says he is not sure why he did what he did for about 8 or 9 months. He said I was the perfect wife, and never did anything wrong that caused him to do this. He said he was just weak and not happy with himself, not me. Still, I do not get it and will never understand that. He is still having a tough time with our physical relationship. We cuddle and hug, but only SF 2 times in almost 2 months and he still avoids "major" kisses on the lips. Is this still the guilt. I am trying to fulfill all of his EN's but I feel that he should be doing more to make this better. He seems like he is here to stay but is not putting in the extra effort to make it work. I could understand if the OW was still here and he was seeing her daily but he is not. How long does it take for those who say they always loved me, never stopped, even during the affair. He never even said he loved her, throughout the entire affair he told me he loved me and not her, but was tired of making me sad.. At least if he said you did this or did not do this, I would know what to try to change or do but I feel I have done all I can, he needs to decide what he wants.