Hi All, No I am not crazy, or at least don't thinks os <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Kike many of you on the site, I have been swept into world of confusion and turmoil as a result of an A. For some time I have been trying to find meaning and see the positives to have come about as a result of the WS's A.

I was sure if I looked real hard that I would find something positive, and you know what, I did. This posting may also give some of the new folk coming to the site hope that things will and do get better no matter how bad you are feeling right now.
Below is a list that of positives (in no particular order) that have occured to me as a result of the WS's A. Please feel free to add to it;

* Forced me stop and look at myself in a new way that I would otherwise never have done
* Allowed me to start working on improving myself (on many levels)
* Made me more empathetic towards others going through the same, as I never really appreciated what they were going through until recently
* Made me realise how lucky I am to have as many good friends as I do
* Forced me to start socializing again as I was neglecting that part of my life
* Allowed me more time with family
* Allowed me to look into and start new hobbies (i.e. dancing)
* Do much more reading about relationships so that this / my next relationship will be better
* Allowed me to (really) help friends going through similar problems
* Realise that life is more what you make of it
* You need to be greatful for the good and the bad times. Can't have one without the other
* Realise that no matter how bad I thought things were for me, that there were people much worse off than myself!!
* Gave me perspective of the bigger picture!!
* Made me realise just how unhappy I was in my M but was putting up with. (obviously WW must have been to)
* Pointed out just how many of my EN's were not being met by WS, but could have been easily addressed
There are probably more, but that's a good start

<small>[ December 07, 2004, 04:24 PM: Message edited by: RenaissanceMan ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by RenaissanceMan:
<strong> * Made me realise how luicky I am to have as many good friends as I do
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This one was huge for me... I've never had to rely on others like I did through this. And, wow, did they ever show through with flying colors!

Moral of the story... Treat your friends and family well, you never know when you'll need them!

Amen. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

I have to say almost all of those things are true for me as well. No one wants this to happen or to go through, but that which does not kill us makes us stronger and I do believe that I and my fww and my M will be better for the healing process.

I have some wonderful friends...unconditional friends...didn't realize that prior to coming into all this.

Added a couple of additional reasons to the first posting..

<small>[ December 07, 2004, 04:26 PM: Message edited by: RenaissanceMan ]</small>