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Well, I have propsed Plan A yet my wife say's it is controlling, and she wont be controlled! How do you make her understand I am trying to help, I am trying to save what we have. She still has an emotional conection to her OM, and she wont walk away from the situation. She still see's him in the office and it makes it worse. I am already out of the house, what else do I do?
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Hi alan,
Did you see the responses to your other post by chance? Just a suggestion,try to keep all your posts on one thread.If you have a question,post it under your first one ok? That way we can follow your story and you can also see the progress as you go along.
Plan A is not about control.It's about negotiating with the WS to end the A.Have you read all the concepts? Remember this: your WW is looking for YOU to be mad and upset with her so she can feel justified in her affair.She may even deflect any positive advances by you since this again,shows her that you love and care for her,something she probably hasn't felt or believed for some time and doesn't want to feel NOW since this makes her look at you as her Husband and not a monster.
Have you considered EXPOSURE at the workplace?
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Alan,
Plan A is for you...not your W.
Plan A is treating your W as best you can, fulfilling all her ENs, and no LBing (love busting).
You are basically competing with the OM, showing your W that you are the better dude.
Read Bob Pure's thread on this very subject.
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