Thanks for the tip, I will stay in one place in the forums. I will go back and re-read Plan A and B, as I am out of the House right now can I still use plan A, or am I onto plan B. She is so very hurt by my actions in the past 5 years I dont think anything will work at this point. How do I rebuild her trust in me while I re build my trust in her? Can we make it work? She doesn't want to talk about anything right now. She wants to back and try and date all over with me, not have a husband right now.