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How long will she stay in the fog about the A? She says it is over, yet to hear her talk I would say she is still in the Fog.
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We need a little more info to be helpful to you, specifically, but what you might be seeing is withdrawal as your wife goes through the adjustment of having OM out of her life.
It can take months for this withdrawal to take place, sometimes it takes just weeks... it is very individual. But the "fog" lifts gradually as the withdrawal lessens.
Hope this helps.
~ Snow
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Alank,
In my experience as a FWW, it’s possible for the ‘fog’ to slip back from time to time during the withdrawal period, especially during early, intense withdrawal. Often early withdrawal and the ‘fog’ go hand in hand and it will be normal for your W to have a ‘foggy’ thinking pattern during this stage. Snowbelle is right, the 'fog' lifts gradually as the withdrawal lessens.
The length of withdrawal is not the same for each person. In my opinion it depends on certain factors like the length of the A; personality & ‘sensitivity level’ of the WS; unresolved issues regarding him/herself etc. According to Dr Harley the most intense symptoms of withdrawal usually last only about three weeks, but in some cases they can linger for six months or longer before they start to fade.
Suzet
<small>[ December 07, 2004, 05:24 AM: Message edited by: Suzet* ]</small>
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Alan,
Just a friendly reminder to post your questions under only one thread ok? Right now you have 4 different threads and people aren't going to know your whole story and be able to answer you most effectively.
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