This crap is just too weird for me!! Last email conversation (and first) with OW was 2 weeks ago when all he$$ broke loose and I told her how it was after WH came home saying it was over. She said that she would no longer initiate contact with me or WH. Today, I get an email from her sending me some website pics and stating that she thought I would like them. What is she thinking...that I'm her best friend now...dont think so!!! Why is she doing this, damn, seems I cant get away from this hell Ive been living in!!! Any opinions from my "friends"?

block her addy... wipe her off your life's radar.

Pep

Hmmm.What were the pics of,if I may ask?

Hi Octobergirl, my friend, the were just pics of amazing photographs...photos of things like the ocean, horses, buildings, etc. that blended in with the background of the scenery. Is this weird or what? She wrote, my name, I thought these were neat, so I thought you would enjoy them too. signed OW

Block her from your email or become her buddy!

Strange!!

k

Weird.Well,like pep mentioned,I would block her from contacting you and leave it at that.Good luck with recovery! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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I never got emails but I had phone calls and she really wanted to be my friend. One big happy family! She even had been calling my daughters trying to speak to them but they didn't have a bloody clue who this weird chinese woman was. I am flabbagasted that a grown woman (and mother) could be so naive and imagine this might be acceptable. TT

OWs tend to be psycho, whereas OMs tend t/b more reserved than psycho. LOL!!!!

Ok, with that said,just block her addy. She may have put you on her 'buddy list' or for that matter her BS list which who knows how many other BSW's addys she may have. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

L.

I am just as shocked! Orchid, she did add me to her buddy list and msgr contact list!!
I know I should block her but am skeptical only because she DID say she would let me know if WH tried to contact her with his lies! I know..I know..come on with the 2x4 to the head!! But jeez, who do you believe..liar #1 or liar #2? At first, guess I am so cynical these days, thanks to them, I thought she might be spywareing me..it is possible you know. You can send a monitor right thru a email!!! Any one know how to check this?

One of my OW did talk to my BS - she didn't want to be her "buddy," she just wanted to "help" my BS to find out what a loser and piece o' crap I was, since by then the OW was seeing my true colors and realizing I didn't LOVE her and didn't plan to leave my W, that I was just USING her for whatever ego boost I got.
They had a couple of nice long conversations about how "toxic" I was (my OW's word to my BS, which of course has been repeated to me in the past..."OW was right, you ARE toxic" etc.)

Block the e-mail addy.

Remember, she's the OW and she's use to lying. How do you know if she will tell you if your hubby contacts her again?

The OW in my situation went on this principle....Keep your friends close and your enemies (me) closer.

She would email my husband daily, sometimes sending him 4 or more emails a day. She wanted all of us to remain friends. He never responded to any of them. As time went on, she got more threatening, until we took all of these emails to a lawyer and got a restraining order against her.

That's what gets me...the OW sleeps with your husband and when all is said and done, pretends to be your friend? She's just looking for another way to get into your marriage. I agree with everyone else...block her.

Arabesque,

Can you expound a bit on how you got the lawyer to help you file the RO? The one we met with said our case was too weak and this was after she threatened to call the police, have me arrested for being an abusive mom with trumped up charges, threatend to have me fired by claiming to contact my employer, etc.

Thanks,
L.

Hi Orchid,

I thought I would reply since Arabesque is unavailable at the moment.

Arabesque and I would be happy to share with you what we know. Unfortunately, we have found good reason to believe that FOW is lurking this board. Please e-mail either one of us at kinther@wi.rr.com and we will expound on that privately.

If there was an attachment that you opened in the email, I would be concerned about spyware. Do a google search for eblaster to see how to check your computer.

Our OW pulled the same crap...she had been a "friend' to both of us however for about a year before d-day whenever she would call our house she would ask to speak to H...she didn`t have anything to say to me anymore.

After d-day H wrote her an NC e-email and she respected that however she tried repeatedly to contact me. I answered her first e-mail and was polite but told her not to contact me anymore either.

She tried again after that....she wrote me a long e-mail about how much she needed a "friend" her kids had been taken away from her...she was about to be put in jail and she was going to kill herself.

I ignored that message and surprise surprise <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> she didn`t kill herself and sent me some stupid e-greeting card about forgiveness.

I ignored that too.

Her messages and ALL messages sent to the BS by the OW are simply attempts to worm their way back into your life and your M. Don`t fall for it. Either ignore the messages or block them.

DO NOT EVER ANSWER!!!!!!

The worst thing you can do to a person is to treat them like they don`t exist.

OW has no reason or ability to treat you well selflessly.

Ignore her.

If I got a 'nice' email from OM I'd saw though his brake pipes at night I SWEAR.

I just cant figure these crazy's out! I am not going to respond and didnt even tell H about it either!! What a nut job!!!