Ok, so as some of you know I went to my lawyer today. Well, she asked me to email my WH and ask him to continue to pay the house payment and to give me child support. If he doesn't then she will file for an emergency hearing. Well, I sent the email. Only 2 sentences and I got a BOOK back. He literally wrote 2 pages telling me how he will not be giving me anything and that he oews me nothing. I was shocked! He went on to say how I'm not being a good mom and that I need to grow up....yada...yada..yada...

Unbelievable!!!! He is hanging himself with his emails. My attorney gets all of them and I don't think she will find this one to be in his favor at all. He is blaming me for everything. I swear...I think he needs some serious help. His email was full of anger and hatefulness. All I did was ask for some child support. GOD!!!
He's also saying that I authorized a draft out of his account..I'm not even on the account. I worked at a freakin bank and know that you can't do that. He's grasping for things to blame me for.
Gosh...how do I deal with someone like this????

You don't deal with him. That is what your lawyer is for. Remember your actions are to protect you and your family.

You let your lawyer deal with it! That's one of the reasons your hired her!

The only reason I emailed him was because my lawyer wanted me to show that I was asking for his help. Now that he has refused I can go after him and force him to pay immediately!!!! He just screwed himself!!!!!!!

Just make sure your lawyer gets all of his evidence..I mean..emails <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I'd like to share your outrage..but as I bear no love for or history with this man..what can I say..my first reaction was "Yay! He's going to get beheaded for this one!" Abandoning your child is just a teeny legal faux pas.

My alter ego goes into overdrive with actively abusive WHs..just call me "The Executioner" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Noodle

Tree, I do not mean to be disrespectful to you but it staggers me that this man can treat his child and his child's mother in that way.

Was he a crazy man before the affair ? how can he possibly refuse to maintain you and your son ???

MUCH as I would like to introduce him to a cricket bat....I think you ar eright that his rambling, rationalizing emails are neatly weavable into a rope to hang him.

He is behaving as if not just fogged but actually delusional.

* shakes head *

You staying dark is quite obviously killing him. I am just sorry it is not LITERALLY killing him.

He wants you to be nice to him, fogive him, win the feckin' lottery and just show up with his son on demand right ?

Tree...your H is up there with FrankDs WW in the craziness stakes truly.

Be strong, you KNOW you ar e abetter person than him and do NOTHING that reduces you to his level. Your calmness and grace will slay him.

All blessings darling tree and son.

{{{{{tree & son }}}}}

Well, you did what your lawyer asked, you acted in good faith. The choice to hang himself is your H's...no one else'.

Do not let him bully you. Try not to let him make you pay for his poor choices.

<small>[ December 07, 2004, 10:09 PM: Message edited by: mgm ]</small>

noodle....I save everything and my lawyer gets a copy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I hope my WH gets exactly what he deserves. I'm going for everything. I AM TAKING CONTROL!!!!!!!!

Bob,
You are so right...he hates that I don't respond to him. I actually hated sending him the email but my attorney asked me to and obviously it shows how wacked he is so it worked out for me. I have proof!
No, he wasn't crazy before...honestly. He was a very calm natured person and never said a harsh word about me or to me....ever!!!! He snapped!!! I don't even recognize this person that he has become. He's lost it!!! I don't understand how he can just leave us and not care. Forget about me...but his son? I never in a million years thought he would treat him this way. Shocking!!!!
Thanks for the support!

noodle....I save everything and my lawyer gets a copy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I hope my WH gets exactly what he deserves. I'm going for everything. I AM TAKING CONTROL!!!!!!!!

Bob,
You are so right...he hates that I don't respond to him. I actually hated sending him the email but my attorney asked me to and obviously it shows how wacked he is so it worked out for me. I have proof!
No, he wasn't crazy before...honestly. He was a very calm natured person and never said a harsh word about me or to me....ever!!!! He snapped!!! I don't even recognize this person that he has become. He's lost it!!! I don't understand how he can just leave us and not care. Forget about me...but his son? I never in a million years thought he would treat him this way. Shocking!!!!
Thanks for the support!

mgm...
I can only hope he acts this way in front of a judge....now that will hang him for sure.

Good night all...I've had a long day.....

Very strange Tree.

When it gets dark for you remember this - his every waking minute is filled with horror at what his addiction is making him do. Every time he looks in a mirror the 'old' H screams in pain.
Whatever else may happen to you Tree you have handled yourself with grace, courage and faith.

You are the straight edge that demonstrates his crookedness.
And you will be blessed for that in some way I feel sure.

Thanks Bob...
You always have a way of making me feel better.
I'm trying very hard to stay calm when dealing with him. I admit...it's very hard sometimes.
I swear, I think he's losing it.
He's making things up and blaming me for his affairs. He's trying to make me out to be an unfit parent. Has he forgotten all the letters and emails and cards that he gave me over the years about what a wonderful mom and wife I am. He used to tell me that they don't make em' like me anymore. Now, all of a sudden I'm crazy and not stable enough to have our son. ??????????
Fog!!!!!!
The sad thing is......my son is seeing his father in a different light. They used to be so close. It's really sad.
I honestly will be glad when this is all over with so that I can start my life over and move on. I'm heading there but until this is done I have dead weight on my shoulders.

Tree - He is just going by the WS guidebook. Last I knew he was offering to help you - or was I just dreaming that?

Hi TR,

Well,your WH sounds like a wildcat backed into a corner(of his own doing) and now he is lashing out.It's painful to look at ones own actions in a such a mess and well,what better way to avoid that than to heap everything wrong in his life on you.He's just shooting himself in the foot.

Money is frequently a very contentious issue especially when it comes to a D.But,what's right is right.You have to provide for your son,I have to provide for my daughters and I don't think any man will prevent us from doing that right? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Stay strong.You are doing fine.

O

Hi believer!
You are right...he was offering to help me now he's treating me like dirt! He's trying to get out of paying what he should for child support. I just can't believe how much he has turned into his mother. I'm sure she's filling his head with all kinds of crap. It's amazing how you think you know people and then BOOM..they are people you never really knew at all.

Hi believer!
You are right...he was offering to help me now he's treating me like dirt! He's trying to get out of paying what he should for child support. I just can't believe how much he has turned into his mother. I'm sure she's filling his head with all kinds of crap. It's amazing how you think you know people and then BOOM..they are people you never really knew at all.

Tree, I wish I was in Orlando next week not Miami or me and the missus would buy you a bottle of wine and a grouper sandwich <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Tree I prayed for a while for you last night and I am not foreverhers or anything but I believe from that prayer that God has a special purpose for you. I am learning to listen to that 'still small voice' but I believe I heard it about you.

Lean on Him and let HIM deal with your WH and his potty mother.

Love your son and be all you can be. You are one of the very strongest people I know. I take strength from your every post I really do.

All blessings my friend. ALL blessings...

Tree -

He has just been kidnapped by the mothership. If he was normal before, this is just A-driven behavior. They feel a sense of entitlement which is completely crazy. I would step back and let him keep shoveling.

Thanks Bob and believer!

Well, I just got another email from My WH saying that I authorized for payment for my car out of his account. WHAT??? He's so full of it. I sent them a check. He had to be the one to authorize it. I'm not on that account. I worked at a ban kk and know how things work. What is he trying to pull? Idiot!!! He's truly lost his mind! I'm so sick of him blaming me for everything. He says that since they took the money from his account that now he can't get our son a Christmas gift. Once again....trying to put the blame on me! Uggggghhhhhhh!

Well, I got an email from my WH apologizing for balming me for the bank thing. He said he wanted to email me and let me know so that I wouldn't be walking around with that burden all day. His ego is bigger than the moon.