FM...just wanted to know how things were going with you...noticed you haven't posted in a very long time...mainly lurking myself these days...spending more time fixing than posting.

(Went into a spiel...just really concerned how YOU are doing.)

Praying that you and your family are OK.

LINY

<small>[ December 08, 2004, 01:52 AM: Message edited by: LINY ]</small>

Thanks LINY...

I hate to let you folks down, but I finally decided what was best for me and my children. I took an extended lunch today, went down to the courthouse and filed for D.

I was numb,
neither angry or sad.....or hesitant.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers brother. Could you keep me there a little while longer? I'm not out of the woods yet.

Today starts my Plan D...

A couple weeks ago I gave my STBXW a copy of SAA, but I doubt she read it, knowing her she probably blamed me for making her feel more *GUILTY as if the actions that created the guilt weren't the true culprit.

Thanks again LINY

I want to live brother!!!

Tell Brown she's the bomb! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

FM,

{{{MB hugz to you and your family}}} Friendly and safe. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

take care,
L.

Hi FM, I am glad to hear you and your family are okay...you have not let anyone down...you should consider yourself a success...you have tried valiently to the the best of your abilities...you did not look away and faced the truths about yourself. That is growth, that is progress, that is enlightenment...THAT is Success.

You have my support as I am sure you have the support of many here. Live your life with no regrets...continue to be true to yourself and a good dad to your kids. May God bless you in this journey. Peace be with you, ss

{{{FM}}}

I would think it is quite bittersweet. I am sorry you and your kids--even your wife--has had to endure all of this.

Yes, brother, will keep you in our prayers.

And brown? Just an amazing woman. You're right! I will not take her or anything God has blessed me with for granted.

Peace, man.

LINY

Hey FM - sorry to hear that things have turned out this way... but you've gotta take care of yourself and your kids... My prayers are with you...

Hey LINY - We miss you in I-ville... I'll be taking a break for a while... I fly home tomorrow for my 2 weeks R&R...

Semper Fi,
RIF

Orchid, Sure, Liny and RIF..
thank you so much for the kind words of encouragement. Please believe I would have never held on this long without the support of this forum. It appears I couldn't save my marriage but I have succeeded in saving my dignity and myself the future pain of regret for not doing everything in my power to reclaim my marriage. My STBX will have to face the consequences of her actions.

At this point I can only hope to gather up all wisdom and growth I've acquired over the last 6 months and use them in my next relationship. I look forward to using Dr. Harleys concepts in a relationship where both parties are truly their and willing to work at keeping their love vibrant. My story isn't over, this is only one chapter, a painfully long chapter but ONLY one chapter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

{{{{{{FM}}}}}}}}
I wish you the best. You will be ok. You are a strong person. Hang in there.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My story isn't over, this is only one chapter, a painfully long chapter but ONLY one chapter.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Maybe we'll hear the next chapter with a new character: Brigadier General Moving-On-With-My-Head-Held-High.

It's not "us" you have to be concerned with being let down anyway--it's your son and daughter. Only you know what's best for you and them.

We'll keep praying FM.

<small>[ December 10, 2004, 09:45 AM: Message edited by: LINY ]</small>

d p

<small>[ December 10, 2004, 09:43 AM: Message edited by: LINY ]</small>

Good luck FM,
Sorry this had to turn out this way for you and
your family. Hopefully your next relationship will be a stronger and better one because of all of these hard lessons learned.
Again goodluck , and God be with u and your family.
Jets

Dearest FM,
You're the bomb too!

You have been an inspiration to so many us (BS/WS/FBS/FWS, etc) on this forum. I pray we have helped you as you have helped so many of us.

I know you will keep your eye on the prize and grab it when the timing is right. You have been blessed by all this real life experience and given a great gift, even in this time of seemingly despare. You will have to look for the fruit that will come from this. There have been seeds planted in your life and they will bear fruit for you and your family. God has a plan - it's not always in our concept of reality and doesn't always make any sense to us. But, He has a plan and He will reveal Himself to you in His timing. God's timing is not ours. He does answer prayers - yes - no - not yet - "Be still and know that I am God ..."

I will pray for you often. Be well and live your life with the righteousness that God has graced you with.

Keep posting

Brown