Well my name is greergan and I am a marriage builder forum addict.

I am finding myself behaving similarly to how these forums describe the behavior of WSs. My current drug of choice is the MB forums.

I have progressively been getting better. Closer to being able to start making up with my job and actually getting some good work done.

When I first started posting here I checked these forums continuously through out the day and night. I was ignoring work demands as well as many of the family demands.

I have been keeping things in better perspective and actually went a couple of days with out MB. Then I was able to spend only a few minutes to post updates. I was doing better at work and with the kids (I am an idiot for not doing better with both previously).

This morning I found out my suspicions were correct that my wife has been in contact with OM again. Well, more than suspicions because she treats me different when she has spoken to him and has not told me right away, so I pretty much knew.

Well anyway, since she told me I have again been unable to make myself focus on work demands for more than a few minutes at a time. I have also been spending most of my time on these forums.

Has anyone else had this problem?
Has anyone beaten this problem?

I just feel so crazy right now when I should be getting myself straight and doing a better Plan A.

Yep - I've got that same problem -- have tons of work to do but find myself scrolling through this site. Some days worse than others - have to just tell myself to STOP! and do some work for a few hours. No other advice to give though to curb the MB addiction - will be interested to see if others have some ideas.

My WH is still w/ OW 2 months post d-day - I tried plan A -- going to some sort of plan B soon. We're selling our house and I'm moving out ASAP. Seems he "chose" OW so I'm outta there (also had 4 other As through our 5 1/2 year marriage -- I sure picked a winner!!)

Hey greergan,

I've been doing that for 3 years now. I stop for a few months, then start again. I had it fixed up so that this site was blocked for awhile, but I'm a programmer, so ... I undid it by editing the registry.

<sigh>

I hardly remember what I'm supposed to be doing here.... and. This is not helping my marriage!

My W says her #1 EN is to feel safe, to feel that her H is a strong and capable provider and is on top of things, is respected and advancing in his work etc. etc.

And here I am wasting time on MB.

I'll stop now.

-AD

<small>[ December 08, 2004, 12:42 PM: Message edited by: AD ]</small>

Hey, there are worse things.

Atleast we are surviving, and possibly even growing. And every once in a while we might even help someone else!

Hang in there Greergan!

Hi G !

I don; think MB is an addiction. We all find ourselves in the worst crisis of our lives (probably) and this forum is full of caring people who can at least sympathise , share their own experienes and some folks can actually help interpret MB for us.

Its an awesome resource as long as you realise its just a net resource, not a substitute for personal stdy, quality MC and prayer.

I was here a lot at the beginning, posting hard and fast. Now I only post a Q when I reach a new stage of recovery.

I DO hover a lot though because occasionally someone will refer a new posyer to me as my own experienes may be useful to them. I missed one a short while ago and I felt really bad.

I am compelled to give back something after recieving back my self respect, my marriage and my life from the folks on this board.

Thats mostly why I hang here.

Also if you weren;t on here , you'd find a less mentally positive way to hang and obsess about your situation rather than doing work.

If you haven't told your boss, BTW do so. Mine was inspirationally understanding and she has a VENOMOUS hardball reputation.

you ain;t gonna be functional at work for a while yet mate.

All blessings.

Addictive? I dunno, I've only been here since 1998 <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />