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starting a new thread to get some thoughts on this question.
Is it ok to offer compromsies during Plan A.
My WW sees the OM almost everyday at work. She doesn't want to quit her job but I think she's willing to quit the A. Is it ok to say to her, she does not have to quit her job if she doesn't see the OM outside the office?
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In my book, no contact means NO contact.
So..no, it's not a compromise I would be willing to make.
Your wife made the CHOICE to have an A. Choices have consequences. If having to quit her job to save her marriage is one of those consequences..then so be it!
And really, what do you expect to acheive through this compromise?
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I'm expecting to see some kind of progress. It seems like we are limbo right now. (maybe we're not and things are progressing and I don't see it yet.)
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Well...do you beleive that you can make progress as long as your wife is seeing the OM?
Maybe her workplace is "safe" in the sense that she can keep it to just business. But..are you going to feel confident and settled with tht arrangement?
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I think so... at least right now I do. last night my WW asked me, "if we do work things out how do I remove the OM from my life?" Which made me think she's willing to try but won't admit it yet. Myabe if I give her an incentive that isn't so drastic at first she would be more willing to move things forward?
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Well..maybe.
But keep in mind that the workplace offers many opportunities for interaction.
I know you want to avoid a "drastic" step, but you may not be able to do so.
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