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<small>[ December 11, 2004, 04:38 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>
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Hi, {{{DH}}}.
Why are you moving? WH is the one who thinks the OW is the answer to his wishes. The Plan B letter is to protect you but it is also so the WS and the OP are together so that they live a real life not a fantasy secret thrill.
Who have you exposed to? Did you plan A?
Don't you move. Not a good plan. IMHO.
I am sure more MBers will be along soon. HAng in there.
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He is the one that should move out, not you. You should continue your life in your home with your children.
Have you asked him to leave?
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<small>[ December 11, 2004, 04:39 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>
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<small>[ December 11, 2004, 04:40 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>
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Okay, if it would be difficult to expose, I see your thinking. But if you leave, what about your daughters? I think it would be traumatic enough for them to find out about the A, without having their mother go.
The family needs to be your top priority. That is you and your children.
By leaving, you are putting yourself in a position to have to come back, even if the affair is still going.
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You need to stay in the house, and he needs to be the one to move out, for several reasons.
HE is the one who chose the A, not you. HE should feel the consequences of his actions.
Your children need a stable, constant, responsible parent - not one who is making decisions which threaten their security and well being.
If you leave, that's called abandonment. Should you end up D, you won't get custody of your children.
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dyinghere,
I sure hope you have taken everyone's advice and not left the home. Tell him to leave. He can take care of himself. If you want to quit your job, well, OK, but I don't see why you should. That just enables their affair.
Please don't be the one to leave the home. Tell him to leave.
~ Snow
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<small>[ December 11, 2004, 04:41 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>
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