Okay, H has been dragging this on since Feb 04. He continues to see her, yet is reading Relationship Rescue, and doesn't want me to pack up his remaining things.

HOW do I get him to see the light and realize that she is not the "one?"

What tactics have you all used?

Susan

You don't get him to see the light. You make the light shine on you.

How? By executing your best plan A, make your changes, don't listen to his fog babble, secure your finances and your support group, strengthen yourself and when you are done and feel strong enough and he still is sitting on the fence or not with you.....then you execute a firm plan B.

L.

orchid, thank you so much. Your positive response, "make the light shine on you" was so perfect. I am feeling so hopeless. I don't think he'll end the
A -- I think he truely believes that he loves her and he can see only imperfections in our M.

I'm feeling that at this point, I have to go no contact (NC). Everytime I talk to him I feel anger, resentment, fear, betrayal. I have to protect my feelings for him.

I also have to see a lawyer. If I can keep our house, I want to. But he'll have to pay for certain things...lawn service, etc. I also have to get myself off his credit cards...he's charging up a storm (MLC). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Thank you for being so positive. I realize I'm obsessing about her and him. I can't help it. However, I've found some wonderful "old" male, married friends who have been very supportive. They all say the same thing...focus on YOU. Let him wonder, make him beg to come back if you want him to. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Any other suggestions, I'd appreciate. Thanks.
Susan

bump^^^^