It occurs to me that in the midst of our trauma over the events that have unfolded in all of our lives, that we have something to feel really good about.

This entire experience with my fww has taught me some things about myself and I am not embarassed to say that in a sense it has been gratifying. All of us who have faced the most painful event possible and responded not with anger, hatred and resentment, but with love, compassion and concern; we're some darn good fellas.

About three weeks ago, my fww's father told me that he was 'proud of the man I am'. That meant so much to me that I can't begin to tell you.

I would like to pass on the sentiment, BobPure, Greergan, RIF..and so many others...I am proud of the men you are. I am proud, if only through the wonders of cyberspace, to call you friends and I think you'd have a tough time finding a finer bunch of men anywhere.

HH, thanks! I have felt a comradely with you and many others as well.

I have also learned much by the discussions I have participated in.

Thanks to everyone that has offered a different perspetive on life. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

HH, while I am a modest man I will say that I have never been more proud of anything I have ever done than my response to the crisis Squid's affair presented us. I felt I had to step up to the mark set by the many other heroes and heroines on this board both FWS and FBS and BS. When I quailed, their courage and compassion drove me forward.

In normal life there are no greater heroes and heroines than folks who rebuild Ms after infidelity IMO.

BTW I would change the title to say BS, FBS and FWS. All who work on this heartbreak with grace and care are heroic IMO.

<small>[ December 10, 2004, 07:04 AM: Message edited by: Bob Pure ]</small>

Hi HH,

Thanks for the kind words.... I hope that my being here has helped some others that are going through what I've been through...

For me, it's an every-day choice... and I choose to love my W...

Semper Fi,
RIF

Everything you guys have been through has helped someone else. My H came to this board five months ago after our DD. He came because he wanted me back. Everyone we knew told him to kick me out, don't look back. He wanted to know that he wasn't crazy for accepting me back into his life and rebuilding.

Five months later and I am very thankful that he had this board to turn to for help during a particularly isolating time in his life. We are getting better every day. I think, given our society as it is, it is harder for a BH to actively take a WW back into his heart and home. You guys do it out of sheer love and stubbornness and strength.

Thank you. BTW, my H never posted, he just lurked.