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FWH Doing Great...My Feelings of Leaving
#1240801 12/11/04 01:01 AM
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My D-day was 11/11/04, found out my H had short EA with kissing. Since that date my H is doing everything well. No contact, no LB, meeting my ENs, etc. I can't imagine what he could do better. He is reassuring in every way. He has been there for me and understanding when I am sad and low, etc. Now for the last few days, I have been having feelings that I want out. I don't plan on acting on these feelings, but they can be strong at times. Is this normal?
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Yep - normal. Almost everyone here wants their spouse back, but when they do commit to the marriage, start having second guesses.
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In a nice moment of frankness and no meanness, we both confessed that we find ourselves wondering if it's worth it after all. Then we both admitted it was.

It's hard to admit those lapses of doubt (about ourselves as well as our S), but I think we are getting much better at honesty by having confessed them.

I can't believe we did this mutual confession without ill feelings, but rather with restored hope as the outcome.

This is a journey of tons of unexpected twists. And, as common as this one is, none of us expected it!
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Thanks for helping me fell more normal. I am frustrated by my inability to enjoy my H doing so well. I am still a mess of anxiety.
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God bless you!

Me, too! I am so happy that sharing our lives made yours easier! -- even if for only a moment!

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