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Hello MB Friends-
Have been here lately probably more than at any time in the previous 10 months. Things are moving fast. OM just confessed to me that he had a PA with my W last year. I felt that was the case, but both have been denying it. Apparently, there has also been sporadic contact over the last year, but nothing physical. He wanted to come clean and asked for my forgiveness. What a day.
Since he told her earlier in the week that they could have no more contact, she has been depressed and unloving toward me. She even turned away earlier this week in the middle of a kiss, which is the first time that has noticibly happened. Up to this point she was always trying to cover her tracks. It was nothing I did. The rollercoaster just reached the top of the first loop and has a long way to go.
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I am so sory for your pain. I am sorry it has come to this. Knowing the truth is bitter sweet. At least now you do not think you are paranoid. Buckle up you are indeed in for a ride, and k=only you know when you have had enough and need to get off.
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KMEJ- Thanks for the advice. I promised myself I would try everything in my power to save my marriage first, before heading for the exit. Bitter sweet it is.
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Maduro,
I'm sorry about what happened. Hopefully, with some time, patience, and effort...you'll wind up with a stronger, healthier marriage.
If I recall correctly, you were debating earlier this week about whether you should expose or not. Did you decide to do so?
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Hang in there, this is the lowest point I would say. Nowhere but up from here.
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Have been gone for the weekend and missed a couple of posts.
AndrewA- On exposure to her mother, I am not at this time. The truth is finally percolating and we have another MC session in a week. I am trying to make smart decisions to avoid making the situation worse. As for a stronger marriage, I thought we had one for the first 18 years. If this makes what we had stronger, then I'm in. As you say, patience.
Hurting- I pray you are correct, and in fact, do feel better knowing that what I feared for the last year is no longer this thing that could jump out at me at any time. Also, I know OM is not a threat now. Nowhere but up. That sounds good.
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