My husband recently went out of town and called me from his company cell phone while driving to his hotel room. Well, I had to tell him I couldnt talk because my son had hit his head and was crying. I told him to call when he got to his room, and he gave me his cell phone #. <P>Well he never called. There have been times my husband hasnt called me for a day or so to give me his hotel #. (which makes me suspicious)...I tried calling his cell phone and I kept getting a message.."user is unavailable at this time, please leave a voice mail message." I have never used a cell phone and I didnt leave a message. <P>I called that # several times and got the same message. What does that mean? Is the phone turned off or is it out of range? It is a "Nokia" phone. <P>I had to get his hotel # off of the internet because he never called...I finally got in touch with him 2:30am. He had been drinking and said that he had the phone with him the whole time and he must have been out of range. Should I belive him? I guess what makes me the angriest is he never called to check on his son and I had no way of getting in touch with him. <P>He also told me he had got into his hotel room at 11:00(even though I had called several times and got no answer)...and he said maybe the phone wasnt working because he was charging it. <P>Tell me, is he taking me for a fool? Or am I over reacting?

Caron,<P>It's hard to say why, but I'd say that your H is probably withholding the phone numbers to his hotel rooms for a reason. That does not mean, necessarily, that he is having an affair, but it does show that, for some reason or another, he doesn't want you to have ease in contacting him. Perhaps he is doesn't want you to know when he is or isn't in the room?<P>The first thing you should do is sit down and have some good, heartfelt communication with him. Let him know how not being able to contact him makes you feel. Let him know that you want and need to feel close to him, even when he is away. Keep it as positive as possible, and see what his response is. Try not to give him any reason to get defensive or angry. (This may be hard, but try!!)<P>My H and I have a Nokia phones too, and the only time that message comes on is either when the phone is actually turned off, or when the satellite signal is impaired and calls cannot be made or received. <P>You shouldn't have to guess what's going on. Talk to your H. If he chooses to lie, then that's on him and there's nothing you can do about that, but don't let him get off easy by not letting him know how this makes you feel. You have every right to want to be able to contact your husband at all times.<P>------------------<BR>Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew. Love is meant to oust all fear. Love is meant to harmonize differences. Love is meant to bring us closer to God.

I told him that I feel like when he goes out of town that the kids and I are "out of sight out of mind" until its convienent for him to call. I asked him if he even considered that his son might have had to go to the emergency room. He told me he knows I have things under control when he is gone..(still not a reason to not call.)<P>I told him I feel like he thinks when he goes out of town that he has no obligations at home. I let him know that if something very bad were to have happened(thank god it hasnt) , that he would never know until he eventually got in touch with me. I think that might have made him think a little.<P>We will see next time he goes out of town what happens.