I am just livid! WH disappears at 5:30 this morning. Work? OW? He says it's none of my business. Yeh, right. In the afternoon, I left messages on his phones that if he didn't plan to go to a special candlelight Christmas church service with us to have the courtesy to call so we couldn't wait for him. He did return the call and said he'd be home in time.

He was, about 5:30 p.m. only 12 hours after he left. We did attend the church service as a family and then went out to dinner. When we got home, the kids and I watched a movie while he setup the laptop computer we're giving our son for Christmas. I left the kids for a bit and went to our bedroom. HE WAS ON HIS CELL TO OW!

That is it for me! I can't take the ups and the downs. I said either carry on the A or be with us but don't jerk us around. He said there's no us like whatever he's doing isn't having an effect on our kids. After some major LB, like words like liar, amoral, cheating slime, I took the dogs for a late night walk to cool off. I also took my cell and her number.

I called Ms. Moral Fiber and told her to leave my husband alone. What they are doing is WRONG! They are hurting a lot of people. Said that if our M is going to end, let it end without her complicating it. If their "love" is so wonderful and enduring, it can last until a divorce happens. Give the success rates of A, you thinks she'd listen. Vented a bit more in a firm but not violent way. She said nothing until she said "Don't call me again." I said, "Then don't be seeing my husband." And hung up.

While I was gone, WH took off in his car. I guess the little XXXX couldn't take the heat and called him right away. Poor, poor subhuman.

Tomorrow is major exposure day. Thanks for letting me vent.

Expose, Expose, Expose!!

Then be ready for his anger.

Ugly business, but it has to be done. It is highly unlikely to end on its own.

Carol,

I have so much respect for you. Keep up the great job...I handed my WW a roll of quarters and told her that if she was going to talk to Om then do it from the pay phone down the road. my kids do not need to hear there love chatter. ( she is now on 18 days of NC ) there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

I set my first boundry with her last night and it scared her straight.

Good luck and keep me informed. I have lurked on most of your threads.

I am just soooooo mad. All the phony niceness. We just went to church for God's sake. Cake eater!

We've had a couple calls since he left in his car. Very stupid. Much better to take the dogs for a walk if you want to cool off. My D called him. All he could say is I love you and try to get some sleep. Does this sound like he has the smallest clue about how he's affecting people?

HH and Michael, thanks for your support. Good to hear the male point of view. Maybe you're not all Ba$turds. Just joking. I keep telling my daughter there's lots of nice guys out there. That lying and cheater are not done by all men nor only men.

Carol, <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
I am so sorry you are still dealing with this. Hasn't this man hurt you enough? He needs to be without the "family" outings. Don't even invite him to church service so he can act like everything is normal. He doesn't deserve it. Don't think your doing the kids any favor either.
My kids are so confused when we have a great day as a family and my husband leaves to go to his apartment. I finally decided that I was sending the wrong message to my daughters. They need to know that it is not OK to let men treat them poorly.

Carol you are not a doormat. If he can not stop the A then you must draw the line for your own self's sake. I have joined a group through the Catholic church for divorced/seperated people. It has been great to be with people who understand, (much like MB's), but we do things on a social level and it gets me out of the house with people who care about me. Are you seeing a C? What are they telling you? My prayers and a big <<<<<<hug>>>>>>>.