I just got off the phone from my in-laws. They are surprised, angry and very supportive. They are very glad that I was able to share this with them and can't believe what their son is doing. I was right to do it in an email. As I suspected, they needed to read, reread, and reread again what was going on to absorb it.

They want to call him. They want to hear his side but feel there is NO EXCUSE for what he is doing. I realize how much I love them. The only criticism they made is that we have never gotten our kids into any religious training or have gone to church. I told them that the kids and I have been talking about it. I always wanted church to be a family activity that we could share but WH never wanted to.

So far, WH has been seen or heard from since late last night. It will be interesting to see if he comes home tonight since it's an hour commute from her house to work while only 10 minutes from here.

Thank you everybody for your support.

Thank goodness your in-laws are supporting you. Mine always said I was the most wonderful thing to happen to WH until he started having an affair. Then they blamed me for everything and didn't blame him at all. They're out of my life.

I wondered how it would go. His mom has found plenty of excuses for him in the past. They are being wonderful. They KNOW who has done all the parenting for our wonderful children.

Oh Boy.

I was the one who told my mom after J walked out on D-Day. I believe her comforting pat on the head was something akin to
"Well what the #$&# are you crying to me for - go chase her and you beg and you plead and you get her back! What the hell were you thinking... oh son, how could you!"

Suffice it to say that your hubby has some 'splainin to do. My guess (given their chief criticism of you) is that they will be all over his [censored].

Good move. When he finds out that bringing OW home to mama ain't an option and Dad starts in with 'Son, I though I raised a good Christian man'...

Well let's just say that it does for the fantasy what water does for your gas mileage.

Good job - this is a take no prisoners battle and there is no such thing as invading his privacy. Now - how bout OW? Don't suppose you can find her daddy's number? Her minister? If she is married, her husband is your next call/email.
Do they work together? There is one to hold off on BRIEFLY but a nice weapon.

The rule of thumb is that ANYONE who can exert pressure on the affair is someone who should be told. Sunlight plays hell with fog.

Hang in there - if you haven't already you might consider getting into counseling - the stretch between exposure and beginning recovery is probably the toughest so watch yourself - eat, sleep, breathe. Parenting is an awesome way to take your mind off it - love your kids.

I'm doing IC. It seems to help. My counselor has been good.

OW is divorced but I wonder if her X knows that she is carrying on this affair in front of her kids? Do you think that's something a dad would like to know? Both WH and slimeball work for the same company. I'm not exactly sure how high the morals are in the company but I might eventually write a letter to their Humane Resources personnel dept. There are activities that they have condoned from their employees are that bad. Since the trip the company sent the two lovebirds on set them up for this A, I'm not sure they'd care.

Hanging tough.