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You know the scenario, WS disappears for a couple days without a goodbye, with no family contact and seemingly without a care in the world about the damage WS has caused in your life. Then they call you up about something and have this chippy, happy voice. They ask you "How's it going?" Then they seem a little surprised, a little put-out when a grumpus voice comes back at them. When you reverse babble, "How do you think it's going?"
Do they all have this out-of-body experience? Is it just 'way thick fog? It just baffles me. This complete lack of awareness....GRRRRRRR!
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HC, Very common. It happened sooo much that I started telling the WS, 'excuse me but do you know who you called? This is your Wife's phone # not the OWs. Is that why you sound so nice today?' <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It took him by surprise and he said he called the right #. So he established his ability to speak decently to me. When this happened, the next time he went to his crazed WS mode, I reminded him of his prior ability to speak decently with me. From that point on his outbursts subsided. The lesson he learned was from his side not mine. I served as the reminder or keeper of that info (kinda like Jimminy Cricket)..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> L.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Orchid: <strong> HC, Very common. It happened sooo much that I started telling the WS, 'excuse me but do you know who you called? This is your Wife's phone # not the OWs. Is that why you sound so nice today?' <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It took him by surprise and he said he called the right #. So he established his ability to speak decently to me. When this happened, the next time he went to his crazed WS mode, I reminded him of his prior ability to speak decently with me. From that point on his outbursts subsided. The lesson he learned was from his side not mine. I served as the reminder or keeper of that info (kinda like Jimminy Cricket)..... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> L. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">OMG Orchid...I do this too...He will call me up and say "hey, how are you?" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I'll pause and say..."I'm sorry, you must have dialed the wrong number..this is your WIFE, not OW" He gets so irriated at that <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Yes, Carol, it is very common...they all do it! unfortunately! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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Speaking of Jiminy Cricket,my WH whistles around the house when he is here which of course makes me sad/mad that he can act like nothing wrong is going on.Part of why I cannot stand him coming home anymore and why I do not want anymore contact with this man,it's disrespectful to me and I just don't want him around me,cell phoning and e-mailing the homewrecker in my presence or that of the children.
Carol,everyone is right.My WH also acts as if he is as happy as a clam around me.I see through the facade though.So does his family.He is projecting an image that is not really there.
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<small>[ December 13, 2004, 07:44 PM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>
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Not all of us do/did that.
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Care to ask your BW about that john?
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Carol....
One day my WH called me at work .....
"Hey, baby" with his voice all low and suggestive.
He never called me that. (In fact, he has never called me any term of endearment - ever!) That WAS however, the greeting message on the secret adultery cell phone he had.
I simply said "Who's this?". I am absolutely SURE he called me by mistake!
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If I can ever get her to post you can ask her anything you want. She reads here once in a while, and even she has said recovery will be easier for us because I havent done the things alot of other WS do/did.
<small>[ December 13, 2004, 07:52 PM: Message edited by: john3479 ]</small>
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But I have to admit, I have it easy. My wife knows I treid to do things different before my EA. I had been trying to get her to go to MC for a couple years. She is willing to face that she did things that, while wrong of me, helped push me where I went
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