Hi, I have not posted in almost a year. Things were getting too rough during my divorce. I did end up getting the D, but took a hard financial hit as I ended up paying the WH $32k for a ridiculous unfounded pre-marital claim.

Anyway, divorce was final in July. Things haven't gotten easier, in fact he's more difficult to deal with than before. My kids have been going thru very rough times on/off since it began in 03. The WH and the OW actually have been living together since Oct. 03 and they had a domestic dispute 2 months ago. Surprisingly, the OW stayed yet after getting shoved into the fridge. Unfortunately my kids witnessed the whole thing.

I would like anyones ideas on if I as the sole physical custody parent have any options open to me as far as what I can and cannot do from here regarding lessening visitation due to the violence they've witnessed and/or the emotional damage the WH is inflicting upon the kids (8, 6, 4 y/o) from his lack of priorities, not allowing the kids to cry when they miss me, not allowing the kids to talk about me, the OW's daughter teaching my kids swearing, being cruel to my kids, and the kids being afraid to stick up for themselves against this kid and their own dad.

Any help would be greatly appreciated. I do not get on the computer as often as I used to now that I am working, but if I don't answer right away, please bump this post up until I do.

Thanks
Foreverfaithful (FF)

I forgot to mention that my WH has been skipping visits more frequently, of course only when it's too inconvenient for him. I also just wanted to bump this message up right away as I just updated my profile which was old.

The WH drinking has gotten worse as well. There also has been some verbal arguing that my kids have heard going on between the WH and OW at night when they are there. Right now visitation is every Wed. overnite, and eowe.

FF

Call child protective services and your lawyer. Your children should not be subjected to such behavior.

L.

Contact your attorney.....and CPS.

If there was a police report made from the Domestic Dispute I would get a copy of it.

Thanks for the suggestions. I've already begun inquiring with some agencies/people. Unfortunately, my divorce atty. is too much of a negotiator and despite her not liking what the kids face when with the WH, she says there's not a whole lot I can do unless I think the kids are in specific danger.

I did find someone however that I'll be meeting with to discuss my options that is very experienced in this sort of thing.

WH is very angry now since he found out that I am taking the kids to a christmas music concert that they are in at his church. It's not his weekend, and he didn't ask even if he could have them. He asked why the hell are you doing this? You're only going to cause problems, which I think he's nervous about what he's maybe been telling everyone at church about the kids mother and nervous that I'll end up meeting his OW face to face for the first time. Well, were going because my kids want to go, not cause I'm eager to go. I'm just supporting what the kids would like to participate in.

I'll explain how it goes once it's over.

FF

FF,

Documentation can not be stressed enough. The oldest is also old enough to tell the courts what s/he saw in way of the violence.