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my ww called this am, we were talking and she was asking if i have been feeding the animals, i said yes, she said she misses living around all the animals, i said come home. she said i cant. i said if you wanted to you could.
i then said teri, i love you and there is nothing we cant work through, if you are just willing to try. she then tried to start a fight, to which i responded calmly, im not going to fight w/you, she continued on trying to start something again i responded calmy that i dont want to fight anymore i need to get back to work.
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Dalson,
It sounds like you handled this well. Where do you think you screwed up?
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with the ily and talking about her coming home. wouldnt that be considered r talk
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she also sent me this e-mail, about 10 minutes after we hu.
A Woman"
This is written in the Hebrew Talmud, the book where all of the sayings
and preaching of Rabbis are conserved over time.
It says: "Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts
her tears. The woman came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be
walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be
equal.
Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved."
i responded " that is exactly right"
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that is reassuring.
after i hu the phone , i was like crap , r talk ily , i just blew it. thanks guys
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what are your thoughts on the e-mail she sent.
i think it was an attempt to get me to try and defend myself and start a fight
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Are you in Plan A?
The email may have been an attempt to start a fight, or she may feel that way. Who knows?
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Any update on OM/his wife?
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no
i assume she has him locked down . she was pissed. she also said if there was any more contact she would raise hell at ww job. and nothing has happened and she hasnt called me, lately so i assume nc.
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Okay, sounds like things are going fine. Stay in Plan A, and continue making changes in yourself.
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i honestly feel i have cganged. but she says i havnt changed. i have not had an ao since nov 27 and that was when i came home to a u-haul with all our stuff in it
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Okay, now you SHOW her you have changed. Don't talk about it at all.
You are new in this and it will take some time. I can tell you that I have completely changed. At first I did it out of desperation because I was so miserable.
People are afraid of changing until it gets too painful remaining the same.
I would stay in Plan A, put her on the back burner, and work on making your life great without her. That way, whether she comes back or not, you will have a good life.
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Welcome. Don't be afraid to lose her (I know, hard), because it will keep you from doing what you need to do.
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im beyond that now, the 1st mo or so i was scared to death, it seems to be a little easier now. did you read my post yesterday about xmas and what do you think.
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