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This is not for me but my little cosin(20y) I have been telling her about MB for a cuple weeks now but she is not veary good w/ coumputers. She found out 6 weeks ogo that she was pregnant her & her BF had been together for a year and they had broken up a week befor she found out now they are back together but he has been different to her., He even pop on her that he is going to join the navy and now his mother has decided that since he is about to join and has a baby on the way that he shuld run around and go wild now while he still can. She told my cosin she shuld back off and let him be young.Now he has comptly blowen her off he dosent have sex w/ her any more he shows up drunk,cusses her out in front of her family ,lip stick on his car mirror and they are gitting married in the summer!!!!
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I'll post a reply when I get done scraping my chin off the floor.
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Hope he does join the Navy, then at least she will be able to collect some child support.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> they are gitting married in the summer!!!!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I wouldn't even consider it! The time to go wild is before you ask a girl to marry you and get her pregnant. She should run as fast as she can in the opposite direction from this loser.
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Can her and her baby still get benifits even if she dosent marry him .What rights would she have?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
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If he joined the Navy her child would still have health care, she could get her child an ID card as an infant (because they were not married) and she could use that to get on base, get into the commissary, etc. Also, the Navy would help enforce support.
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I think her best option is to avoid him altogether..if he is willing to give up paternal rights..so much the better.
I'd thank him for the DNA and be on my merry way to better future decision making skills if I possibly could.
It is very foolish to marry under these circumstances. Walking completely away is best for everyone in this case I really think.
Has she considerred putting baby up for adoption?
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Iknow all this makes sence but I know she will still marry him <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I have been and am still going through most of the truble she is going through and I know what she is in for.Her pregnecy is not going well she keeps loseing weight dew to depression. I know how frightend she is but if I tell her what I know becouse it is not what she wants to hear.She will pull away from me & I dont want her to go through this by her self.I recomended the EQ to her would that help in her case? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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Does your cousin have a high school diploma?
A drug history? Drinking? Partying?
How did she come to be intimate with such an obvious loser?
What have we got to work with here?
Relationship to her Mom and Dad? Anything?
What I see..is an uneducated child who got knocked up and has NO IDEA what she is in for if she follows this plan to completion. She has no way to provide for the baby..daddy is a joke at best..her best option..really..and I mean this despite how painfull I know that it would be..would be to look into adoptive families. She is not prepared for this. Clearly not. Is there anyone she would be willing to talk to? A professional?
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noodle , Words from my own mouth that i would never say out loud. BUT NO SHE WOULD NEVER GIVE THE BABY UP. She will be a wonderful mother she is big in church ,close to her family ,& the most careing ,responsable person i know she will be a grate mom and the baby will be lucky to have her <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (even thow the same can'tbe said for the dad)She already loves this baby sooo much!!!
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She is studying to be a pre school teacher she meet the looser at church (not that he goes any more <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> )and she lost har V to him after a bad brake up with her high school sweetie.No she dosent have a record & she dose not drink .HE DOSE ALLMOST all of the above
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