Somebody mentioned an OW board on pg 13 of Faithinme´s thread. Where an I find it? It would be very interesting to see the "other side"

I've never been there..or rather..avoided it like the plague might be more accurate.

It's called TOW though [the other woman]..probably show up easily if you google it.

But don't. Here there be tigers.

Noodle

curiosity kill cats ... gloryb.com ... you have been warned. -rh-

Thank you. I´ll peek and let you know

There is also a discussion board on www.ivillage.com called My Affair Support. I went there one time, but it was very painful to read. To say the truth, it seems like all of those OW on there were in a lot of pain as well. Nobody wins here; everybody just hurts.

Kati

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I warn you----- don't go to TOW. They despise THE WIFE. They also use expletives very freely and will show no mercy to a betrayed wife. Their view is that they are doing what is RIGHT for a married man who is not getting his needs at home. Some of these women over there will bluntly tell you that someone has to give oral sex to theese men that stray and they are happy to do it. In other words, it is a low class site.

OTOH, they have a section about what happens after D-day and the grief of the OW when the married man decides to stay in the marriage. I can tell you the OWs feel betrayed (can you believe that) and cannot understand why the MM lied to them. Most of the affairs end badly for these OWs!

I warn you-- it is very dysfunctional!

OMG-It is like stepping into an alternate universe. I am convinced that the shallowest people on the planet reside there. One can barely see from all the fog.

I peeked, briefly and I was glad to see that some of the posts were quite stupid about ay old subject, so maybe some of these OW are really people with self esteem problems, but the "endings" forum was quite encouraging.It seems that they also realize how painful breaking up is for everyone.I had enough though.I´m not up to reading anymore at this moment.
Thanks for the advice. I´m sure I don´t want to be a WS....

Well CC, now you know the grass isn't greener.....it's the weeds that haven't been sprayed yet. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

TOW boards are full of drama queens. Periodically they get bored with their own boared and go on the hunt to bring their pain to other places (like MB). Often they are identified (OWs esp can't act sane too long, their OWness creeps out) and if they don't comply with the site's requirements, some have been asked to leave while others are denied future entry, etc.

Similar to what the OWs we deal with are doing but at varying degrees. Eventually the OW will want the BS' title, $$, possessions, children, etc. That is why it is critical the BS take steps to secure their finances, setup a strong support team/network and take care of themselves.

L.

Thanks Orchid. But I´m a curious person. I´m convinced it has to be worse for them,just had toprove it.
I´m proud of myself today: BIL called looking for WH and I told him everything. He was shocked but supportive, told me whatever happened I would always be his nieces mother and that we could probably be closer now than we have been (we have been distanced for a few years because of his W STB xW). Said that he would talk to WH.I just toldhim to do what he thought best and the only thing I asked of him was to there for his brother because he needs someone to talk to.
both WH and I have separate work related parties tonight,I have toleave in 1/2 hour and may not see him... so we´ll see what happens now.

My husband went to that TOW board, and got extremely depressed reading the "other side"!! If you are a BS you should not go there!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

MYRTA

People, please stay away from that board! it gave me nightmares, litearlly! Those woman are pathetic. They really are...getting upset cuz "their" MM is going grocery shopping with his WIFE! for crying out loud...yes, we go grocery shopping with our H's...they areally are sad! to say the least! Please dont go there! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

"If you are a BS you should not go there!!"


Wished Id seen this before, these women make me sick, and Im a man.

Was on the other day and some were posting about another forum that was making fun of their names.

Went to ScaletA.com, very funny and venomous. They pick apart the postings the OW board makes daily. Careful, they are not behind MB principles.

Most of those woman over there (repeat offenders) are pathetic trashy woman IMHO.

I mean you can tell by alot of their posts. They are always fighting amongst themselves and talk about sex with their MM all the time. It's quiet sickening.

It was depressing and some of the threads provide a window on how the other side thinks. For example on one thread they were discussing how bad it was when the married man had guilt about the affair. They hated the MMs that felt guilt. Most of the OWs that were single stated they felt no guilt because they were unattached.

Many single OWs slept with single men when the MOM was not available even though they said they loved MM. Te excuse was that the MOM was at home with wife in bed therefore they were justified.

The endings section is revealing and provides a window into their pain. They really hate NC past D-day and always feel the betrayed spouse is the bad guy in the movie.

On another thread an OW was upset because her married man bought his wife a car and they were building a new home. Of course this MOM had promised the OW he was leaving the WIFE! They really hurt when the MOM lies to them; but they are unable to put 2 and 2 together. Their relationship is based on lies!