</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by anyname:
<strong> :::Once again you may be a tad misguided
Am I misguided a lot? ("once again") <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
::::You see, her behavior is all "addiction related" and in a sense she can't control it. There has been a wave of "brain neurotransmitters" that have been fired that make her actions truly questionable, but this is all really a sickness.
Hence the saying, love sick? Yes, it's nature at work. But a lot of people here don't buy that. October Girl just gave me a right dressing down for saying the exact same thing. I see it more as nature with the wires crossed. (e.g. nature normally provides attachement chemicals in the mother so she will care for the 3 little children involved in this case)
:::While her actions are terrible, they are not "really" her. This my friend, is the essence of "THE FOG".
I have a bit of a problem with "the fog". Having spent ten years in a religious cult, I truly believed a bunch of cr*p that would make your hair stand on end. However, I didn't feel guilty about what I was doing and I believed I was doing the right thing 100%. I was in a fog. I had a religious addiction.
Affair fog is a little different to that. There is a conscious decision to turn your back on what you know to be right and a deeply painful sense of self disgust over your behavior, hence a lot of fancy foot work to shift all the facts around to fit what you want to do.
The endorphine hit (feel good factor) that WS enjoys is accepted by them as purely selfish. Have you ever had the "rush" yourself? I have. And I know that there's a choice involved. Whether to let it get hold, or whether to stand back and take stock, while you put the feel good feelings aside and consider what it is you are doing. From my understanding, WS refuse to do that. They make a choice not to think about what they are doing, because they know that if think about it, according to their previously held life model, they won't be able to do it. The premiss is; I want this, and the rest of it will have to fit what I want - even though they know it's wrong.
This is a fascinating area of discussion because perhaps we are not all created equal. I am truly at a loss to comprehend how some people give in so easily to this. If it's that powerful why doesn't everyone do it every couple of years when there is a new feel good factor on offer?
Would you not feel sympathy for your spouse if they were suffering from Cancer???????????
No, it's nothing like cancer is it? It's mroe like, would I feel sympathy for my spouse if they got conned out of our life savings? I guess I don't feel sorry for people who delude themselves into damaging themselves and other people.
AN </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ann:
Thank You for such a wonderful post. I could have never wrote it the way you did. Good job. Thanks.
LM
