Oh the wicked web that is woven. All WH can think is that nothing he does affects anybody else. There's no "us", it's just him and me.

My high school son and I had a little talk last night. He is a wrestler. At this point, he is ranked 4th in our state at his weight and class in the high school rankings. He's an excellent athlete. The last couple of matches, he's been complaining about how he feels so tired and not focused. I could only give him a hug and say "Honey, you're going through a lot right now. School is hectic and the stuff with Dad isn't making it better."

We decided that we needed to tell his coach. That once his coach had an idea of the situation, he could help support S and motivate him. S asked me to do it. It's another hard one. We've known the coach for years. Actually, I've known him for years. Behind every good athlete, there's supportive parents.
Unfortunately, it's another thing WH couldn't be involved in unless S was in the spotlight.

Stupid WH! Where is your head when you won't support your very talented son in his last season? It makes me so mad. It's such a waste.

It's the fog, Carole. Your WH doesn't care right now.

The exact same thing happened with my son during his Sr. Year in High School.

My son is now in his freshman year of college, home for Xmas continues to talk about the pain of that last year.

I feel for you. I've been there.

All I can say is to hang in there. As are traumatic for all involved.