^bump^ from a lurker.

I'm thinking of you MSchluter.

Hang in there. I'm praying for you and your family.

bumping up hoping for an update. Michael, how are things?

^^

MSchluter has not been on Yahoo the last few nights, and an email I sent him bounced.

Naturally worried again. Hope he turns up again like usual. I do have his phone number.

GC

GC, let us know if you contact Michael. I have been worried about him.

Update:

Sorry for the disapearing act but things at home just got way to crazy for me and the children. I almost lost my children because of this woman and things now seem to be getting better.

WW was still in contact with Om but it was just on the phone. She officially ended the A two weeks ago and now wants to talk about getting back together and saving the M. WW is seeing an IC and going through CPS to help her with her anger. IC is also helping her see what her A did to me and the kids and she has written me everyday letting me know what a fool she has been and she even called me three nights ago and broke down on the phone begging me to forgive her and that she was an idiot to let this man come between her and her husband and her kids. Not sure what I will do.

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I am in a very safe and strong place and have gained some weight back after spending three days in the hospital for sever weight lose and depression. I was able to get the bank to give me an extention on the mortgage and am still trying to figure things out. I feel sad on most days but hopeful of who I have become and where I want to be. I would love to work things out with my ww and let her back into the house but I plan on making sure it's right for me before I do. I have a lot more happier days but I still wish I had faith in what god's plans are for me.

Well drop me a line and tell me how all of you are doing...

GC breathes a sigh...

Michael, I've considered calling you every day since you vanished. But it wasn't the first time, and I assumed you disappeared for a good reason.

Wow, I'm glad things are going in a positive direction. What finally convinced your W to look for help?

GC

schluter@frontiernet.net <--- new email address...

GC I wish you would call me. i could use the support

Hi Michael,

Lots of us have been wondering, hoping, and praying for you.

Glad to have some good news.

Happy you have some light after some very dark days.

SS

Still have those says, just not nearly as many..

feeling better and now i'm back in the house with the kids and doing great. Hope to here from some of my fellow MB'ers

Michael,

Very glad to hear from you. Sounds like things are on the mend and that is very good news. God is watching out for you. Thank Him every day.

Michael, I am so relived to see you post. Many of us were quite concerned. Remember to eat and take care of yourself.

Update

well I moved back into the house with the kids and ww is still calling me and wanting to come back home. I have a restraining order on her not allowing her near the kids or the house..

Just to let you all know..

I walked in on her job one day and caught her on the phone with OM and that day I moved me and the kids out and turned her in to CPS who in turn Vindicted her on all charges and charged her with neglect..

Good to hear from you...

I'm really glad you've got things in order to protect your kids. Hopefully you can work on building yourself back up. Take it slowly with WW and make sure you think things through with her thoroughly. You don't need to go back to that ugly mess you were in before.

Hang in there!

Miker

WW calls me everyday and I have told her on a few occassions that she really needs to give me some space to figure things out for myself. Right now i'm in what I consider a safe and happy place. I have gained back some serious weight ( Brothers wife made me eat ) The kids feel safer and happier that Dad is smiling again. I have gone to court three times over this matter with WW. Yesterday in court her attorney told the judge that we were looking at getting back together. My Attorney stood up laughing and told the judge that there is no truth to that and that until ww finishes Parenting classes and IC that I will not even be considering the notion until then. I did ask the judge to lift the order for a day so I could go to an IC with om on Monday. WW wants me to sit in and listen to her and IC and I guess this IC feels I need to hear some things that WW is feeling. Since I moved out with the kids ww has had no contact with Om and now that I moved back into the house and she has moved out she continues with IC, Anger Management, Parenting Class and is trying to get me to go to an MC with her. Her family is willing to pay for us to talk to the Harleys.

I still have many sad days especialy after I get off the phopne with WW. She cries and begs me to forgive her for all she has done, Her sister came over to pick up some things one night and told me how ww stays up all night crying and upset over the hurt she has caused me and the children.

WW's sister came up to me last week in court and told me how good I look and that WW is very pleased with my appearance these days. Well I guess thats what five days a week at the gym gets you and good fod with no fights. I'm back running and working out and doing my martial arts again.

It's been over six weeks since I caught her talking to OM, How will I know when it's time to go into recovery and to be honest, after all of the hurt and the pain I'm not sure I want to at least not yet. I'm not out trying to pick up woman . I go to the gym and then out for a run and home to my kids.

I could use some advice.. I also asked the judge to revise the restraining order so that She could call me and the kids, she still can't come over or near me or them unless in court.

Her family after all of this and my walking out on her have decided that my ww is an idiot and that she needs to get her crap together.

WW had Om served with a restraining order from cps telling him to stay away from her. She told me she did this for me and her and that she is now realizing how much she has hurt me and wants me to forgive her and love her again. That day I left I had no love notes in my bank for her..

Today she had some flowers sent to me with a note saying how much she needs to work and fix this and that she has one of my shirts she sleeps with.

She ends every call with " I hope our love can get through this " and then tells me she loves me and kisses the phone and hangs up..

OK.... Rip me apart and tell me what your all thinking.

Your wife is offering to hear your pain, begging for your forgiveness, and asking you to work on your marriage with her.

What would it take for you to believe she's sincere?

GC

I'm with gc on this. ...only I'm not going 2 be so gentle:

WTH??

What you have there is apparently an entirely repentent WW, and after only several months? And you're not willing 2 work with her?

Look, I can understand that you may not feel loving right now, after what you've been subjected 2. If you had no kids, I would think that it's entirely justified if you didn't want 2 have anything 2 do with her.

But you have kids, and you have a responsibility 2 give this a go for their sakes. Love is a choice, it's not a feeling. I think you should choose 2 love your W for who and what she is - your W and the mother of your children - and give this some serious effort.

This time requires HARD WORK, not "space 2 think."

-ol' 2long

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> But you have kids, and you have a responsibility 2 give this a go for their sakes. Love is a choice, it's not a feeling. I think you should choose 2 love your W for who and what she is - your W and the mother of your children - and give this some serious effort.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Michael, I am with GC and 2L on this. She is repentent, she is doing everything required of her and your children deserve a mother. Take her up on the offer of MC and get a couple sessions in the Harley's. This is a gift from God for you, Michael. Accept it. {{Michael and family}}