Does anyone here know what kind of effect meds for bipolar would do to someone who is not bipolar? (Explanation see my other thread--Lurker coming out)
To all who have responded on the other thread thank you for your insight and advice. I am trying to get the nerve to just leave for Montana today when my 5 year old gets home from school. I just dread her response. Besides I know for a fact that OW took from 12/22-01/07 off from work. For what I'm not sure, I know she is not going on vacation. I think she is having breast implants done. I can't believe the lengths this woman will go to just to try to keep my husband on the hook.
She sold her house so she could move closer to our home. She had custody of her niece, age 10 and nephew, age 14 (because her sister wasn't a fit mother--she was running around with too many men GAG) She gave custody to her neighbors because when she started her relationship with my WH, the kids were in her way. (She has no children of her own). She also gave away her 9 year old dog that she had owned since it was 6 weeks old because my husband didn't like dogs. This woman is pathetic. She sits in parking lots waiting for the "love of her life." I alternately hate and feel sorry for her.
Venting, I don't know why I have so much more anger for OW than I do for WH. I think it's because I have been able to talk to him and talk things out. OW is nasty and condescending. She has been going around telling people that I have psychological problems. Well, duh,--depression, PTSD, but I wonder where those came from? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> If she thought I was so psychologically unsound, why didn't she, as such a good friend, point me toward a good psychiatrist during the 12 years we were friends? She just thinks it's abnormal to cry. Her reasoning is that if I truly loved my husband, I should just let him go be happy. That's what she did when her husband left her for another woman. Of course, she had my WH in the wings, so she was happy to see the back end of her husband. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
How do you deal with all the anger? I know people on here will probably tell me to stop letting OW have so much power over my life. But, I don't know how to let it stop bothering me so much. Every word that comes from my WH's mouth comes straight from OW. He is like a puppet in her hands. But he has days when he absolutely hates her too. I have been trying not to pressure WH, but he feels all the pent up anger in me and wants to avoid it. Again, does anyone have any thoughts on handling anger. I have to say the thoughts I was having last night were a little frightening. I have a key to her apartment (it was in my WH pocket) so the temptation to do something to her was very strong. But then, reason returns and I think of my sweet little kids and wonder how I could even consider doing something that would jeopardize my relationship with them. My children are so precious to me. That's why this has been even more difficult. I feel like OW and WH are cutting them into little pieces in front of me. OW has been such a huge part of my children's lives. She was "Aunt Tracy". She was there when they were born. She is in all our family videos. We took vacations together. We were always doing stuff together with my kids. She was closer to me than my sister was. I think that is why the betrayal is so much more pronounced from her. An adult my children trusted has stabbed them too. And her words about this? "Oh, if you just act normal, they'll get over it, they'll adjust." I want to scream, "They are not TV sets, they do not have knobs, you do not adjust them!!!!!!!"
Anger, Anger, Anger!!!!! What do I do? I was seeing an IC for awhile, now I can't afford it. People on MB have been immensely helpful, but I know it is no substitute for C.
