Lately I've been listening to a lot of traditional country music on satelite radio (I'm trying to learn steel guitar). I'm sure everyone knows that this genre is rife with songs about infidelity written from multiple viewpoints; betrayed, wayward, OM, OW, etc.

I thought it might be interesting (only to me, perhaps) to post some lyrics and see if it sparks discussion. Feel free to add your favarite cheatin' song.

Here's one I heard the other day by Ray Price that's classic fogspeak:

THE OTHER WOMAN

Verse 1
Don't accuse me of being without feelings.
If you do, you know that you're wrong
For it was you who was careless
And you drove me to the other woman's arms

Chorus
The other woman, isn't prettier than you
But the other woman soothes my wounded pride
But more important, I feel wanted again
I can't give up the other woman in my life

Verse 2
I'm afloat in the middle of a river, and I can't climb out on either side
If I go o-ver the deep-end, it's because sweetheart you didn't try

Repeat Chorus

DBL post

<small>[ December 17, 2004, 02:56 PM: Message edited by: Learning The Hard Way ]</small>

While this isnt a cheating song, it reflects the way Im sure some of us feel, its by "Linkin Park" and for those of you who havent heard them, boy, dont know what your missing, its like just about every song they have ican listen to and relate to, some pretty powerful stuff, should give them a listen, Ill post my favorite ones here..... if you dont mind legato

First one is called Dont Stay... to get the full effect you really need to hear them while reading the lyrics..

"Don't Stay"

Sometimes I need to remember just to breathe
Sometimes I need you to stay away from me
Sometimes I’m in disbelief I didn’t know
Somehow I need you to go

[Chorus:]
Don’t stay
Forget our memories
Forget our possibilities
What you were changing me into
Just give me myself back and
Don’t stay
Forget our memories
Forget our possibilities
Take all your faithlessness with you
Just give me myself back and
Don’t stay

Sometimes I feel like I trusted you too well
Sometimes I just feel like screaming at myself
Sometimes I’m in disbelief I didn’t know
Somehow I need to be alone

[Chorus]

I don’t need you anymore, I don’t want to be ignored
I don’t need one more day of you wasting me away
I don’t need you anymore, I don’t want to be ignored
I don’t need one more day of you wasting me away

With no apologies

[Chorus]

Don't stay

Don't stay

While country music is rife w/cheating songs from all perspectives. There is one that I absolutely have to change the station. In fact, sadly because I really liked his music, I can't even listen to a song of his without a bad memory.

Alan Jackson
"Who's Cheating Who"

When I am w/ WW and this song comes on, I wonder what she thinks? I know what I am thinking of.

Yeah, I had a song like that too. It's not so bad now ... but it still does kind of take me back there if I hear it.

This one makes me cry everytime I hear it.

Tammy Cochran
If You Can




Are you awake; are you asleep?
Its hard to tell with your back to me
Turn around and face me, if you can.
Are you afraid what I might see
If you should look at me.
Now, tell me about her, if you can

If you can look me in the eye and say we're over
If you can kiss my lips and feel no fire inside
If you can hold me body close and still say you love her most
Then you can walk out of my life, if you can.

Everyone makes mistakes; tell me shes the one you made
And I'll forgive, and I'll forget, if you can.
Who was right and who was wrong
Doesnt matter if the love is gone.
Honey, I'll keep holding on, if you can.

If you can look me in the eye and say we're over
If you can kiss my lips and feel no fire inside
If you can hold me body close and still say you love her most
Then you can walk out of my life, if you can.
You can walk out of my life, if you can.

<small>[ December 17, 2004, 06:53 PM: Message edited by: nutcase3 ]</small>

This song was a trigger for me before D-Day. My STBX had a history of running off, mostly before we were married, but even afterwards too, repeatedly with months and months of the Silent treatment(as long as 5 months one time), and her addiction to internet lovers, (4 that I know of). She has broken my heart, visciously so many times. It is scary to think I could let it happen again. Anyway, Maroon 5 - This Love.


I was so high I did not recognize
The fire burning in her eyes
The chaos that controlled my mind
Whispered goodbye and she got on a plane
Never to return again
But always in my heart

This love has taken it's toll on me
She said goodbye too many times before
And her heart is breaking in front of me
I have no choice cause I won?t say goodbye anymore

I tried my best to feed her appetite
Keep her coming every night
So hard to keep her satisfied
Kept playing love like it was just a game
Pretending to feel the same
Then turn around and leave again

This love has taken it?s toll on me
She said goodbye too many times before
And her heart is breaking in front of me
I have no choice cause I won't say goodbye anymore

I'll fix these broken things
Repair your broken wings
And make sure everything's alright
My pressure on her hips
Sinking my fingertips
Into every inch of you
Cause I know that's what you want me to do

ooooh yeh, I'd been thinking of posting a similar thread but...wasn't sure if this was the right place. Maybe the divorce forum is more suitable for my favorites <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Early into discovery I downloaded a bunch of cheatin', hurtin', survivin' songs onto a CD as a means of well, licking my wounds (or putting salt into them). Anyway they helped me cry my eyes out and get on with my life. Even gave WH a copy of the CD, which confused the heck out of him <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

The lead in tune is You'll Think of Me by Keith Urban

woke up early this morning around 4am
With the moon shining bright as headlights on the interstate
I pulled the covers over my head and tried to catch some sleep
But thoughts of us kept keeping me awake
Ever since you found yourself in someone else's arms
I've been tryin' my best to get along
But that's OK
There's nothing left to say, but

Take your records, take your freedom
Take your memories I don't need 'em
Take your space and take your reasons
But you'll think of me
take your cap and leave my sweater
'Cause we have nothing left to weather
In fact I'll feel a whole lot better
But you'll think of me, you'll think of me

I went out driving trying to clear my head
I tried to sweep out all the ruins that my emotions left
I guess I'm feeling just a little tired of this
And all the baggage that seems to still exist
It seems the only blessing I have left to my name
Is not knowing what we could have been
What we should have been
So

Take your records, take your freedom
Take your memories I don't need 'em
Take your space and take your reasons
But you'll think of me
take your cap and leave my sweater
'Cause we have nothing left to weather
In fact I'll feel a whole lot better
But you'll think of me

Someday I'm gonna run across your mind
Don't worry, I'll be fine
I'm gonna be alright
While you're sleeping with your pride
Wishing I could hold you tight
I'll be over you
And on with my life

So take your records, take your freedom
Take your memories I don't need'em
take your cap and leave my sweater
'Cause we have nothing left to weather
In fact I'll feel a whole lot better
But you'll think of me

So take your records, take your freedom
Take your memories I don't need 'em
Take your space and all your reasons
But you'll think of me
And take your cap and leave my sweater
'Cause we got nothing left to weather
In fact I'll feel a whole lot better
But you'll think of me, you'll think of me, yeah

And you're gonna think of me
Oh someday baby,
someday

Thank you George Strait...
I've Come To Expect It From You

So upset
Nervous wreck
I can't believe she said goodbye
Sit and smoke
Cry and joke
About these tears in my eyes

Chorus:
How could you do what you gone and done to me
I wouldn't treat a dog the way you treated me
But that's what I get
I've come to expect it from you

A million times
A million lines and I bought 'em every one
You don't care
You rip and tear every dream I've counted on
I guess I should thank my unlucky stars
That I'm alive
And you're the way you are
But that's what I get
I've come to expect it from you

Chorus

I could raise hell
But what the hell it wouldn't do a bit of good
I can leave
My heart agrees it seems to think that I should
There won't be no more next time doing me wrong
You'll come back this time to find that I'm gone

But that's what you get
You should expect that from me
That's what I get

Song thread says it all, good idea <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Dance me to your beauty with a burning violin
Dance me through the panic 'til I'm gathered safely in
Lift me like an olive branch and be my homeward dove
Dance me to the end of love
Dance me to the end of love

Oh let me see your beauty when the witnesses are gone
Let me feel you moving like they do in Babylon
Show me slowly what I only know the limits of
Dance me to the end of love
Dance me to the end of love

Dance me to the wedding now, dance me on and on
Dance me very tenderly and dance me very long
We're both of us beneath our love, we're both of us above
Dance me to the end of love
Dance me to the end of love

Dance me to the children who are asking to be born
Dance me through the curtains that our kisses have outworn
Raise a tent of shelter now, though every thread is torn
Dance me to the end of love

Dance me to your beauty with a burning violin
Dance me through the panic till I'm gathered safely in
Touch me with your naked hand or touch me with your glove
Dance me to the end of love
Dance me to the end of love
Dance me to the end of love

Haywire, I like that one.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Tom Joad:
<strong> Haywire, I like that one. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah, the George Strait one? It hits the nail on the head for me too (switching 'she' to 'he') <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I often wonder why hearing incredibly painful songs makes me feel better <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> Is it the ol' misery loves company thing...?

Love this Patty Loveless one too...
Blame It On Your Heart
(Harlan Howard/Kostas)

You've got a thing or two to learn about me baby
'Cause I ain't taking it no more and I don't mean maybe
You don't know right from wrong
Well the love we had is gone
So blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating,
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Well all I wanted was to be your one and only
And all I ever got from you was being lonely
Now that dream is laid to rest
'Cause you have failed the test
Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating,
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Are you headed for a heartache, oh yeah
Gonna get a bad break, oh yeah
You made a bad mistake, oh yeah
Well, you're never gonna find another love like mine
Someone's gonna do you like you done me honey
And when she does you like she'll do you, it ain't funny
You need some sympathy
But don't be calling me
Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Are you headed for a heartache, oh yeah
Gonna get a bad break, oh yeah
You made a bad mistake, oh yeah
Well, you're never gonna find another love like mine
Someone's gonna do you like you done me honey
And when she does you like she'll do you, it ain't funny
You need some sympathy
But don't be calling me
Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating
Two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

Hey blame it on your lying, cheating, cold deadbeating, two-timing, double dealing
Mean mistreating, loving heart

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I often wonder why hearing incredibly painful songs makes me feel better Is it the ol' misery loves company thing...? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The blues guys always talk about singing the blues as a kind of therapy; singing about their pain or even somebody else's pain makes them feel better.

Both of these songs, the George Strait and the Patty Loveless, have that other quality of finding the humor within the painful situation and that helps also.

When I was knee deep in pain and confusion this song BY NICKLEBACK was on a pretty much on a continuous loop.

SOMEDAY

How the hell'd we wind up like this
And why weren't we able to see the signs we missed
And try to turn the tables
I wish you'd unclench your fists
And unpack your suitcase
Lately there's been to much of this
But don't think it's to late
Nothings wrong just as long as you know someday I will
Someday, somehow I'm gona make it alright
But not right now
I know you're wondering when
But you're the only one that knows that
Someday, somehow I'm gona make it alright
Well I'd hope that since we are here anyway
That we'd end up saying
Things we always needed to say
So we could end up staying
Now the story's played out like this
Just like a paperback novel
Let's rewrite an ending that fits
Instead of a Hollywood horror
Nothings wrong
Just as long as you know someday I will
Someday, somehow
I'm gona make it alright
But not right now

Well if you haven't picked up Dierks Bentley's cd, you should.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"Wish It Would Break"

That old picture frame keeps hangin' 'round
Cause' I ain't ready yet to take it down
But every now and then I'll slam the door
Shake it loose and she'll hit the floor
But I can't throw a good thing away
I wish it would break
I swear my trucks got a haunted radio
Cause' I hear you in every song
But I know what the silence makes
Me do
So I keep givin' those buttons more abuse
I wonder how much punchin' it can take
I wish it would break
[chorus]
Then I could move on right on
Down the line
Where I don't see you need you
In my life
But you're wrapped around me
Your memory's bound me like a chain
I wish it would break
And this old heart of mine's got a mind of its own
And it's decided not to let you go
Even though your love's no longer here
It won't let me shed one tear
Cause' it's still holdin' onto yesterday
I wish it would break
[chorus]
I wish it would break
I wish it would break
Go on and break</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"Forget About You"

I'm gonna build a fire in the middle of July
Burn your pictures and go for a drive
Down to the river watch the ink from your love letters fade
Come back home and turn that old mattress over
Pour out the whiskey try wakin' up sober
Gonna change it all tonight, gonna do whatever it takes

Yeah, cause I've lost weight and I've lost hairs
And I don't intend to ever go back there
Drinkin and a-thinkin' 'bout a love that just wasn't true
There's a good chance I'll end up insane
Without enough sense to come in from the rain
My mind might be the last thing you make me loose
But I'll forget about you

I heard that old Jones song just the other day
'bout a man who took a broken heart to his grave
But I'll be damned if a memory's gonna lay me down
I might be walkin' around with a head full of air
Actin' kinda crazy but I don't care
A heart barely beatin' but I'll still be above the ground

Yeah, cause I've lost weight and I've lost hairs
And I don't intend to ever go back there
Drinkin and a-thinkin' 'bout a love that just wasn't true
There's a good chance I'll end up insane
Without enough sense to come in from the rain
My mind might be the last thing you make me loose
But I'll forget about you

Cause I've lost sleep and I've lost year
And there aint no tellin' how many tears
My mind's gonna be the last thing you make me loose
But I'll forget about, I'll forget about you
I'll forget about you</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">and of course
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">"How Am I Doin'"

It's strange to hear your voice
I did not expect for you to call
You wonder how I'm doin
How I'm holdin up
Since you did me wrong

[chorus]
Well how am I doin' since you did what you done to me?
I can't lie I sometimes cry when I think of how it used to be
I keep my friends with me, I stay busy and I don't get much sleep
Baby, that's how I'm doin since you did what you done to me

Well now wait one minute, I
Failed to mention
Those tears I cried, are tears of joy
Cause' it was no fun there
Under your thumb and
Now that we're done I'm
Gettin' right every night
With every single ever-lovin' girl in sight, so

[chorus]

Well when all my friends heard what a
You know what you were they
Took me out on the town
But then I heard our song and
I dance along but
It felt all wrong cause'
She was sweet, she let me lead
She never took her ever-lovin' eyes off me so

[chorus]

Well I don't know what you were thinkin'
Runnin' round on me
Now you say you're sorry
Well honey I agree...so

How are you doin' since you did
What you done to me
Girl don't lie you know you cry
Cause' you know how good it used to be
Yeah, tell me does the thought of
Losin' my true love make it hard to sleep, baby
How are you doin' since you did
What you done to me

Yeah how are you doin', now that you know
How I'm doin since you did
What you done to me</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Lee Ann Womack - I May Hate Myself In The Morning Lyrics

Ain't it just like one of us to pick up the phone and call after a couple of drinks
And say "How've you been" and wonderin' that maybe you've been thinkin' 'bout me
And somewhere in the conversation an old familiar invitation always arrives
And I may hate myself in the morning, but I'm gonna love you tonight.

Everyone's known someone that they just can't help but want
And even though they just can't make it work out, well the ones who lingers on.
So once again we wind up in each other's arms, pretending that it's right
And I may hate myself in the morning, but I'm gonna love you tonight.

I know it's wrong,
But it ain't easy moving on.
So why can't two friends remember the good times once again?

(Fiddle & steel solo)

Tomorrow when I wake up, I'll be feeling a little guilty, a little sad.
Thinkin' how it used to be before everything went bad.
I guess that's what it is and late night calls like this that we try to find
And I may hate myself in the morning, but I'm gonna love you tonight.
And I may hate myself in the morning,
But I'm gonna love you tonight...</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

I heard this one yesterday; written by the great songwriting team of Felice and Boudeleaux Bryant and recorded by Carl Smith.

THIS ORCHID MEANS GOODBYE

Tonight I send an orchid
And though I'll always care
This orchid means goodbye to you
and to our love affair
It's just my way to tell you
And I hope that you won't cry
But I be-long to someone else
this orchid means goodbye

When you said that you loved me
I knew it wouldn't do
Cause I'm in love with someone else
I guess I love you too
But I'm married to another
What chance have you and I
So I just send an orchid, dear
This orchid, means goodbye

Our love might have been different
But I made sacred vows
And I can't ever break the heart
that I hold with mine now
So please forget the past, dear
as time goes passing by
Cause we can't ever love again
This orchid means goodbye

I don't know if it comes through in the lyrics or if you have to hear the recording, but what I was struck by in listening to it was the false nobility. It's like he's saying, 'we had our fun but now I've got to do the right thing and end it.' Why all of sudden is he having an attack of morals triggered by 'when you said that you loved me'? Hmm.

"I notice the ring" by Chris Isaak:

Long legged,
Good looking,
You got everything.
Slow walking,
You come up,
Then I notice the ring, I notice the ring.

You're talking, I'm listening...
But I don't hear a thing.
Is it something he bought you or only a ring?

You don't gotta fool me if you say it's only jewelry
I believe you when you slip off the ring.
It gets complicated if it's more than just gold plated.
Are you single, does it mean anything?

She's laughing, "Stop worrying,
Get in the swing."
Heart pounding, I'm wondering,
"Just what did she mean?"

Say nobody's waiting,
That's it's nothing, just gold plating
That it really doesn't mean anything.
Say your grandma left it to you
Just all you need to do is tell me that it's no wedding ring.

Nice diamond

The worst one for me right now is that Nelly/Tim McGraw song that is getting so much airplay...it brings up very painful and vivid images...

Cause it's all in my head
I think about it over and over again
And I can't keep picturin you with him
And it hurts so bad... yeah
Cause it's all in my head
I think about it over and over again
I replay it over and over again
And I can't take it, I can't shake it no

[Nelly]
I can't wait to see you
Wanna see if you still got that look in your eye
That one you had for me
Before, we, said our goodbyes
And it's a shame that we
Gotta spend our time bein mad about the same things
(Over and over again) about the same thing
(Over and over again)
Ho.. but I think, she's leavin
Aw, man, she's leavin
And, I don't know what else to do

[Tim M] Can't go on not lovin you

[Chorus]

[Nelly]
I remember the day you left

I remember the last breath you took right in front of me
When you said that you would leave
I was too damn stubborn to try to stop you or say anything
But I see clearly now
And this choice I made keeps playin in my head
(Over and over again) play in my head
(Over and over again)
Ho.. but I think, she's leavin
Aw, man, she's leavin
And, I don't know what else to do

[Tim M] Can't go on not lovin you

[Chorus]

[Nelly]
Now, that I've real-izzzed
That I'mmmm goin dow-hown
From all this pain you've put me through

[Tim M]
Everytime I close my eyes (woo!)
I-hiiii like {?} ohh-hohhh
I can't go on not lovin you

[Chorus] - repeat 2X

[Nelly]
Uh, uh-uh-uh
Uh, uh-uh-uh
Uh, uh-uh-uh
Uh, uh-uh-uh
Uh, uh-uh-uh
Uh... over and over again, over and over again

Cause it's all in my head

I had forgotten this one and even though we're not sure what the relationship is, I prefer to think that they're married.

This seems like the perfect Plan A song. He's telling her in a gentle way, almost a seductive way, to end the affair. I particularly like the clever way that he refers to 'her friend'; not blatantly hostile, more like dismissive; like he knows who the better man is.

A moment of silence please, for the great Jim Reeves:


Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone
Let's pretend that we're together all alone
I'll tell the man to turn the juke box way down low
And you can tell your friend there with you
He'll have to go

Whisper to me tell me do you love me true
Or is he holding you the way I do
Though love is blind make up your mind I've got to know
Should I hang up or will you tell him
He'll have to go

You can't say the words I want to hear
While you're with another man
Do you want me answer yes or no
Darlin' I will understand

Put your sweet lips a little closer to the phone
Let's pretend that we're together all alone
I'll tell the man to turn the juke box way down low
And you can tell your friend there with you
He'll have to go
Yes, you can tell your friend there with you
He'll have to go