I just wanted to stop in and wish all of you all the best these holidays.
To Pepperband, Coffeeman, JL, Blondblossom, Redhat,Football Widow, Kily, and many, many more who helped me during the dark days of the past-- thank you from the bottom of my heart for your inspiration, hope, and support.
To those of you I don't know who are struggling with the ravages of a marriage torn apart due to infidelity-- remember to never give up. When I came here in the fall of 2002 my then ExH and I had lived apart for two years, and we were legally divorced. He wouldn't even look at me. I was the WS. I came here for well over a year and posted, cried, and received great support. We were remarried 3 1/2 years after separating!
This week coming up marks a year since our first 'date' since our separation in 2000. I may say too that our first 'date' wasn't the stuff of a fluffy movie. It was very strained, cold in a way, and my husband was extremely guarded and reserved. That being said, what a wonderful year it has been since those first tenuous moves towards reconciliation.
Redhat once told me not to give up until my divorced spouse was remarried. He was right! Follow your heart, and don't give up. Truly, it is amazing in light of how my husband acted towards me that we are now remarried. It shows the power of love and forgiveness, to say the very least.
Your marriage can survive this hideous thing called infidelity, even if others around you tell you to let the marriage go, and even if you're already divorced. I say again, my husband wouldn't even look at me for years. Love is a powerful force, that's for sure. It can endure all things!
Take care and God bless,
H_P
