I haven't had sex with my wife in over 2 years. She would rather play Final Fantasy online then spend her free time with me.

I am too incompatible to be the man she wants. I am also not going to see any sexual activity if I do the things she wants.

How do I know? In the beiginning of our marriage she said she ha a very low libido. In no year of our marriage did we have sex more than a handful of times.

Would you stay in a sexless marriage?

Robert,

First of all, I'd change your user name and edit out your personal info. You do not want that on a forum like this.

I'm a little alarmed that you have this on the "infidelity" section of the board. Is there someone else in your life or what is a mistake?

Marriages can be improved. You just need to learn the tools to do so.

Dobie

I stay for love and effection, sex is just a by product of emotions.

So to answer your question, YES I WOULD, Because I love my wife for who she is not for the sex.

Hello RS,

Not trying to send you away, but there is a "sexless marriage" forum (forgot the exact name) on the divorcebusting . com site.

Last I noticed, there was a lot of activity there, and I'm certain you'll find a lot of listening ears there.

(There are a million listening ears here, but on a different slant.)

thanks. sorry to have bothered you.

OK...Robert is an online chat friend of mine. The reason I suggested he posted here is because his wife had an online relationship some time ago. he had to put up seeing his wife weeping and in withdrawal. he says that at this point he lost all feelings for her. I suggested that he posted this but he doesnt think its relevant.

Robert... I think teh REAl question is...would u stay in a loveless marriage rather than would u stay in a sexless one....If you truly love someone you may well be prepared to live without sex, because of other feelings that you hve for that person. For a man to live without sex and without love with a wife who obviously takes little joy in hiscompany and seeks the attention of others is another question....

What do you other MBers think of this now?

Well the way I see it is that if Robert ended up here, this is exactly where he needs to be.

I know that life is too short (or too long) to be lonely while in a marriage.

The MB principles apply to all people in all relationships, in my opinion.

I am not even married but I am here learning how to be a person who could in the very least have a good relationship.

Robert - I really don't know if I would stay in a sexless marriage, but I would NOT live without love. Whether it come from myself, GOD or from another.

And sex is a very big part of marriage, so I don't think I would be very happy in a marriage without sex. And I would be extremely unhappy in a marriage where my spouse shared what is most sacred and intimate with another, being it sex and/or love.

You've come to the right place guy, please stay here and get what you need to get for your life and marriage.

Get support, get ideas and get through this "with a little help from your MB friends". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I know that life is too short (or too long) to be lonely while in a marriage.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Weaver, this is well put. I was very lonely in my marriage before. We co-existed and shared kids but nothing else for about 5 years. Ocassional sexual encounter, just enought to give me hope and hang on a little longer in the relationship. It is a hurtful existance. I cried myself to sleep many, many times.

Would I go through it again? No, I would not. I feel that I wasted quite a few years of my life hoping for something that might never have been. If my husband wants me he had better let me know or I am out the door. I want to be with him but I won't be humiliated, and abused like that again not even for him.

Cathy