My husband was in the hospital in the beginning of November. It took him over one week to call me to tell me that he was in the hospital (he and I live 3.5 hours apart.) When he finally told me he was in the hospital (Thanksgiving Day), found out that the OW had brought him to the hospital and things that he needed/wanted from our apartment. Yes, I was peeved but when he was discharged, he called me to tell me that he was discharged and told me that he wanted to be left alone. So for the past 3 weeks I've respected his wish and haven't talked to him and vice versa. As far as I know, he is still with the OW.
Well, I called him today because he received some mail - thought that it was important so I called him. He was very brief with me and basically told me that he'd pay for the insurance. Also told him that I had the car fixed and asked him that he put some money in our bank account (he has a seperate bank account in which his pay check is directly deposited into and I have no access) - told me that if he had anything extra he would give me a few dollars. Seemed to me that he just didn't want to talk to me and kept trying to get me off the phone. Asked him if he would like to have dinner with me next week because I'd be in town, and he said he would call me. I just don't know anymore. I feel as though he doesn't want me or even try reconcilliation - we've been dancing around this whole situation since March 1. He wants to "talk" after January 1. I feel as though he has made his decision to move forward with the OW. Now I just don't know what to do. I've tried to be nice and follow the directions for Plan A. I'm so tired, why doesn't he just tell me he doesn't want "us" - why doesn't he just give me an answer? And why can't I just move on without the answer? What am I to do? Do I just keep respecting his wish to leave him alone, or do I keep communicating/talking/seeing him? I feel that if I leave him alone, he'll just keep his relationship with the OW going and slowly push me - his wife - out of his life. And if I keep communicating with him, I feel as though I'll be irritating him with constant communication. What to do?
