Well, here it comes. My first Christmas alone and it hurts. I won't see my kids until after the holiday. For those who don't know my story, my STBXW is destroying us in every way possible. Financially, emotionally and my kids are caught in the middle. She told me filed for divorce because she felt I did not love her enough. I don't know how I will get through this.

I feel your pain, I really do. Last year was my Christmas from H*ll. I will not go in to detail with you as I feel you are low enough in your feelings. I just want to tell you what I did to make it better for me. I surounded myself with friends and activities. I was still very depressed and lonely and wanted my H and kids desperately, however it made the day go by faster and I did not cry the whole time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry you are going through this. Stand strong, you are a good man and you do not deserve any of this.

KMEJ,

Thank you for your continued kind words. I am trying my best to surround myself with people to ease the pain. I wish you the best for the holidays, as well.

If you live in MN (or close) you are more then welcome to come over and join us. We will be having ham and playing games and things like that. The more the merrier. We are already haveing two other friends (one who's Husband just up and left her) and another who has no family, My house is always open and my kitchen is constantly cooking for any and all!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KMEJ:
<strong> I feel your pain, I really do. Last year was my Christmas from H*ll. I will not go in to detail with you as I feel you are low enough in your feelings. I just want to tell you what I did to make it better for me. I surounded myself with friends and activities. I was still very depressed and lonely and wanted my H and kids desperately, however it made the day go by faster and I did not cry the whole time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry you are going through this. Stand strong, you are a good man and you do not deserve any of this. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">KMEJ:

Is having your WH now back in the house that much better for you and your kids this X-mas year? Be careful what you wish for, you just may get it. In your case, you got what you wanted right?

LM

KMEJ,

I live in NY but that invitation really made my day. Thank you!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KMEJ:
<strong> If you live in MN (or close) you are more then welcome to come over and join us. My house is always open and my kitchen is constantly cooking for any and all! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">KMEJ:

You are a "jewel" of a person. Somehow you just don't seem to know that. Your WH should count his lucky stars you did not kick his A$$ to the curb where he belongs (in my humble opinion).

LM

My xh left my girls and I 3 weeks before Christmas, it was a very hard time for us. Keep your chin up and do somethings that make you happy. I'm sorry you are going through this stuf <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .

You'll get plenty of encouraging words, thoughts, prayers, and advice from this board that's forsure <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

The words here have been very encouraging. I would feel so much better if I left on my own like so many H's do. I really don't want to have a conscience.

Husbandlost-
I wish you all the best. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I always thought it would have been easier to lose my H to dealth then to another woman. Because then your self esteem and self worth and self respect are not distroyed, not to mention your ability to trust.

Lemonman- Sometimes I ask myself the same question as to if this was all worth it. You seem to be a wonderful man, a woman will be very lucky to have you. Thank you for your continued support!