Help! I've been married for 16 years and have known my husband for 21 years. We have been on the rocks for a year and I have told him many times that I was unhappy. Recently, he took me seriously and we began to talk and work on our relationship. He went on marriage builders website and found a questionare that included a piece about honesty. He decided to tell me about his frequenting strip clubs and getting lap dances for the last 5 years. He admits to getting one hand job from a stripper.Later I find out this happened many times. Meanwhile, we have both come down with herpes! I have broken out with it several times and have been very sick with it. I am now on medication but still feel the symptoms now and then. I asked him to move out so I could have time to think and sort out my feelings. He did for two weeks. During the time I was sad and decided that he could move back in just before Thanksgiving. We got to counseling and began to work things out, but I kept thinking there was more to the story. When I asked him. he finally told me all of it. He admitted to picking up hitchhickers and getting blowjobs for money or pot! Then after our 15th aniversary trip in the Grande Canyon, I flew home and he flew to Utah on a business trip. He called an escort sevice and ordered 2 girls! Then the next year, he went back and ordered one girl. I need some support from someone who has gone through this. He says he wants to stop and commit to us. I am scared.

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He says he wants to stop and commit to us. I am scared.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What does he say he is willing to do to reach this goal?

How has he paid for all this sex worker service?

Pep

PS ... How big a problem is porn?

I am guessing he's deep into it.

Pep

PS (again) ... is he a pot head?

Pep