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Is this the Plan B Christmas?
#1245904 12/21/04 12:37 AM
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My holiday is going crazy. My inlaws, who always spend Christmas with us, refuse to commit to being at our house until they know more about what is going on. They don't want to be around for a big fight. Nor do I want fighting, tension and general unpleasantness on such a special day. I really don't want my husband in this house until there is NC with OW. I'm more than willing to arrange time for him to be with the kids. Since 2 out of 3 of them drive, they can arrange what they'd like. I just don't think he should be here in our house if he's still with THAT WOMAN.

Is this unreasonable? He just makes me mad. WH has puzzled about why I would be mad. He doesn't see any of this as a betrayal. Complete fog talk.
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#1245905 12/21/04 01:01 AM
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Not unreasonable at all.
Define your boundaries and stick to them. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Hard as it is, that is what I plan to do.
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Plan B is the gift you give yourself. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Plan B is the gift you give yourself. [Big Grin]

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I think that should be our Christmas motto around here Noodle.

Carol -

I think you are doing the right thing. I would not let a WS live in my home while they were in an affair either. Orchid just told someone on another thread that she told her FWH that their home was too good for a WS. I happen to agree wholeheartedly with this philosphy!
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I agree with the others. So what DO the inlaws know about what's going on?
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My inlaws know just about everything and are very supportive. They call frequently and pray always. WH wouldn't call them for a long time. My advice was for them to be lovingly persistent. When they finally did talk to him, they felt better for a while. WH did what he does very well and told them what they wanted to hear. After a reality check, they were even more upset.

I respect their feelings. They don't want to come to a Christmas where people are angry. We've decided to see what happens at the MC session today.

I feel beaten down but firm. My kids are behind me. I need to stick to my boundaries or lose a part of myself. I really fear the false recovery.

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