My WH has been coming around on weekends to do things we me and the kids. I was beginning to believe he was starting to see through the fog. Things seemed to be fairly good. Last night after we watched the movie "Hidalgo", I said "Is that what I need to do, let you go free and run with the other horses?" He kind of shrugged his shoulders and said "MAYBE"....I tried not to react, but tears just started rolling down my check and he said "Don't do that"

OK MB friends...What the hell is that? Please tell me what "maybe" means to a WH! I have always taken "maybe" to be more of a yes than no. Is "maybe" a common answer from people in fogland. This whole ambivalence thing is killing me.
I told him he needed to decide what he wanted so that I could get on with my life. I am thinking this is the beginning of the end. Just not sure I am prepared to accept that the love of my life has no love left for me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

"Maybe" means anything from "heck no" to "absolutely yes." Don't dwell on every word. WSs in the throes of a romantic affair don't know what THEY mean - much less their BSs. He just as well could have answered "banana" to your question and it have the same depth of meaning.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by WaitingWithoutHope:
<strong> Just not sure I am prepared to accept that the love of my life has no love left for me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Nor should you accept this because it isn't true.

Hello,

I think "MAYBE" was his way of telling you that he was hurt by your question... if he is making efforts, then I think you may need to acknowledge them instead of challenging them with such questions... He is showing you thru his actions that he is with youby his own choice... why would you set him free with the horses when he has chosen to be with you? Is it possible that he is tring hard to regain your trust and that your question shows him that you doubt his intentions and efforts to be with you?

This can't be an easy time for either of you... Keeping you in my prayers...

Peace,
Odyssey

Agree maybe can run the gamit, and it is very important not to hang on every word... BUT in this case from this man's perspective it sounded like "maybe" if you'll put up with it to me.

Thanks for the input. I actually called him and told him that hearing him say "maybe" made me feel
uncomfortable when his actions were saying something else. Like Odyssey said perhaps it was a reaction on his part, as to...if you are doubting my intentions then "maybe" you should.
His response this morning was that perhaps "maybe" was not the right word to use. He has a knack of being very ambiguous in his choice of wods. I think it is a noncommital thing because he doesn't want to hear anyone say "BUT YOU SAID!!!"

As I have said before I think we think too much!!