Okay, I will try to make what is a really long story some what short.

My husband met another woman on 10/29/04. He is in the Army and was away at the time. He came home on 11/8/04. The ONLY reason he met her was b/c he thought I was cheating on him. I was not cheating on him. I work full time and was raising two kids, ages 5 and 2 all by myself. Plus, I started working out and losted 15lbs (of fat) gained lean muscle during the 2 1/2 months he was gone. So they had roughly 8 days together. Thanks to our cell phone bill, I see they have been talking. Mostly it is my husband who calls her. Of course I was upset. We have been together on and off for 9 years and married 3 years. I thought maybe things died down between them b/c the calls are less and less, but then I read a text message he sent her. It said *Hi I'm sick wish you were here or at least I could hear your voice but she is home so I can't call you. I miss you and I love you.* OMG! You cannot fall in love with someone that fast. I have been treating my husband like a king. He is still sleeping with me too. I started going to counselling by myself b/c I feel like my life is falling apart and I've brought it upon myself. Thankfully the other woman lives a few states away. I don't want to lose him. But I feel like I am losing the fight. Btw she knows about me. When I first found out they were talking I called her. Any advice or commemnts will help. Thanks!

Welcome, Mom. Stay here! You will find help.

You haven't brought it upon yourself. Knock that thought out of your mind immediately.

You don't want to lose him? Are you sure? Then read about plan A. Can you find the link?

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html

GC

I don't want to lose him. Just when I realized all the faults in our marriage and decided to change or at least try to fix things, he meets someone else. He said twice now that it is over and he doesn't want to work on things, but he still acts married. He has two places to go, but stays home.He could easliy move out. If he was that unhappy, wouldn't he leave? Is he just testing me? Love is a strong word. I forgot to put up our ages. I am almost 23 and he is 25. We had our first child when I was 17 and our next when I was 20. Up until he met this girl, I was the only girl he has ever ben with. He said he didn't sleep with her, but now I am starting to wonder that he is lying. I am so confused. Some people tell me to leave him, that I am young and have so much going for me that I deserve better. But I want my family. I feel like I've worked too hard to just let it all go now. I need a guy's point a view on my situation lol

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OMG -Focus on what you and your children need first. I understand your pain. Please read my post from a few minutes ago to Emotionally Drowning under "Just Found Out."

Hi Mom
What does your husband say - does he want her or you?