We had our kids write a letter to Santa a few days ago requesting that he come the night of the 22-23. He did and when I got home from work we had Christmas at our "home". I will be taking the kids to my family's here in a few hours and tomorrow will meet my WW and turn them over to her to take to her family's.

Anyway, we were sitting around opening presents and I had to get up and leave the room three times because I started breaking down and crying. My WW asked later if what was bothering me and I told her I was angry with her, and even though I know it's not all her fault, I blamed her for the worst Christmas ever. I blame her for tearing our family apart with her selfishness. I imagine tomorrow won't be any better when I sitting around with my parents opening gifts. The thought of not having my wife around will kill me. I won't miss having my WW around though.

MIF?

MiF?

Wish I could say or do something to help lighten your load this holiday season. I know it is tough, but hang in there for the kids. You have a right to you pain. Just don't let it swallow you whole.

(((Hugs))))
~ Snow

Hello,

I am sorry about what you are going through, Actually this is my first Christmas that I am alone and my daughter stays with her Mom she just called me and told me that she loves me so much and she missed me. I cant even think about going shopping and celebrating holidays because my situation is to painful. But think about GOD that always there and pray, I am learning a lot about my self and only God knows where we belong, Merry Christmas...

MB'ers are always here to help...

Thanks, that's why I like this place. Always someone around to "talk" to.

MIF?

MIF,
So many of us can identify with your pain. This is my 3rd Christmas without my spouse,although I have 3 teenagers. The first Christmas after he left, I was still kinda thinking there was hope for my marriage, then I found out from a distant friend that my X had gotten married (yes, before the divorce was even final...a felony in TX).....Talk about pain, however I did make it through. You will too, I just know you will. God will get you through it, and it takes time. Keep posting and let us know how you're dong.

I didn't even want to celebrate Christmas this year. If I didn't have children I would probably not have put a tree up or anything.

MIF

((((MIF?))))

I am so sorry you are in so much pain. I have been reading your story and I feel so bad.

I know how you feel about not wanting to even have Christmas.

Last year on the 22nd I finally had confirmation (from SOW first, then H after hours of grilling) of the "consumation" of the A. *gak*

With two kids under 10 in the house, cancelling Christmas was not feasible!
I still don't know how I made it through - I don't remember half of it!

One thing I do remember is H opening a rolodex that I gave him for his desk and our oldest joking, "Oh Great! Now you can keep you girlfriend's #s in alpha order!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
She wasn't being mean or sarcastic - she did not know of the A. She thought she was making an innocent joke. H nearly choked and I almost died of pain!

Do it for your kids, MIF. You will muddle through. Come here - you have support. I wish I could say more to make you feel better! I will keep you in my Christmas prayers (and EVERYONE here at MB!!)

Hugs, Frags

Thanks Frags. I will have Christmas with my family and the kids later today, then will meet the WW and exchange the kids so they can have Christmas at my in-laws. The funny thing is they haven't asked, yet anyway, about where mommy is. I expect something to happen tommorow and don't know yet what I will tell them.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

MIF?

I don't have much advice, seeing as this is my first Christmas dealing with infidelity. I know it will be hard on me, even tho my hubby will be there, but it will be hard b/c everyone in my family knows what he did/is still doing. Plus, he doesn't have his ring on. I am going to feel so uncomfortable. Then, Christmas day we are going to his family. I have not told them yet and I doubt he has.

I do wish you a merry Christmas tho <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I feel for you MIF.
My stepson is with his grandparents.. 2 hours away..
My WW left for Dallas for work..
and I have to work overnight all weekend by myself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
We had our "christmas" last week.
This truly is the worst christmas EVER!
hang in there.. (it's almost a new year.. meaning new possibilities <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )
At least that's what I keep telling myself!!

Just wanted to drop by and wish you a good Xmas even through the pain.

Wishing all the best for you.

Thinking and will pray for all of you today.

God bless.

Thanks,

Yeah, we did Christmas at our *home* on the 23rd. I took the kids to my parents that evening and we did Christmas with my family on the 24th (my mom's B-Day too). Then later that evening I met my WW half way between my parents and her parents and turned the kids over to her. She took them to her mom's and they are doing Christmas now. I broke down and cried and had to leave the room twice while having Christmas with my family. I am doing okay today though.

My WW asked me to come to her parents with her, but I turned her down. I just need to know she is serious about working on the marriage before I go down that road again.

Merry Christmas to all! I hope it was better than mine.

MIF?

MIF?

Be thankful for the time with your children and other family. Lean on them for support.

I agree this is the worst Christmas ever...

I am in a new city with no friends yet, no family available, and a WW who is skiing with the OMM. So I have sat all alone yesterday and today, reading here, journaling, and praying.

You will survive this, as all of us will....

The new year brings hope, healing, and love for ourselves....

TM

Well, it's over. I am still alive <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

TM, hope you're doing ok. You are right, we all will survive this. "That which does not kill us, serves only to make us stronger"

MIF
How am I doin'?

I got through it Christmas is not so bad at all, I would like to say thanks to REDHAT for showing up in my friends house, I got so drunk and all I know is Christmas is finally over. And I am still standing, Redhat is really cool he helps me get through my christmas day. We all did it.

Now with New Years on the horizon I got that to think about. I guess, I will at least be with my kids. I told the WW that I will watch them so she can go out with OM. She tells me she isn't, but why wouldn't she? She will be kid free, no worry's. I mean that is what their relationship is based upon. She should enjoy that while it lasts because once we are D they will have to deal with 3 girls, and everyday stresses.

MIF