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here is my question? our aniversery is coming up. do iget her anything and if so what?
x-mas went good except when i went to drop the kids off , i was real rushing, i wanted to make the exchange and get the he11 out of there. she said i was being a jerk. i said i was sorry for doing that but it hurts me to leave my kids and i dont want them to see me break down.
she also said i dont know why she couldnt come to my dads place to pick them up, she said i bashed her to them, i said i only told them the truth. she then said this is the reason we cannot get back together was because i drug everyone into our business (exposer).
im starting to think maybe exposer to the extent i did maybe was too much.
my family, her family, our friends ect.
i keep waiting for that glimmer of hope and it just doesnt seem to ever shine.
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Where are you at? Plan A, Plan B? If plan B I would say no gift. If plan A and you want to then go ahead.
Just my .02
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dv is filed but i am in plan a with no sign of my real wife yet. what kind of gift. im thinking a happy aniversery card would be a slap in her face, so that would be a no no, right
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Ok, you and I are in the same boat. D filed, but kinda plan a-ing.
I wouldn't go with a happy one. Maybe one that says how much you love her, how you think you are meant to be together etc.
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im so not into this, ive had t giving, daughters b-day 12-6, xmas and then sons b-day 12-31, new years, and then aniversery 1-7. this is too much,
i see from your sig that you filed this month too,
why did you file? i filed to protect what i have left and my kids.
so you think a happy card and maybe something not so personell...
this sucks, ive always been such a good gift giver.
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My idea is a nice card of love, that is what you feel.
When that time just passed for my WW and I, just this september, I went overboard trying to maybe buy some love. It back fired on me.
Go small with something that says how you feel.
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dalson, I second alank's suggestion.
I filed because I just didn't see my WW giving OM up and I refuse to accept him in my life. I didn't want to continue living the way we had been. Numerous false recoveries and disappointments.
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thanks guys. ill just try and find a card that says how i feel. does any one know where to get a hurt, angry,betrayed,sad aniversery card? hallmark is out. just kidding <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
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Considering your situation,...flowers would be appropriate with a simple sentiment attached to acknowledge the occasion. Nothing elaborate...maybe a few of her favorites in a vase.
This would let her know that despite filing for D, you still have a place in your heart for her.
Don't expect anything in return or you will be setting yourself up for a disappointment. If she discards the gift, let it roll off your shoulders. You will have acknowledged the occasion without LB'ing and maintaining your Plan A.
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