I dont know how many of you read my post " Opps" om recovery, but last week my wife found an old envelope that had OWs name and address on it in my car.

We have gotten past that, but now we have a new issue that is going to be harder to deal with.

My youngest son and FOWs oldest daughter go to school togeather and are friends.

How do I tell my son that he cant talk about his friend around his mom? She has said she doesnt want to hear FOWs name or ANYTHING about her. I fully understand this, but any ideas on how to address this issue?

Etta James: Trust in ME

Trust in me in all you do
Have the faith I have in you
Love will see us through
If only you trust in me
Why don't you, you trust me

Come to me when things go wrong
Cling to me Daddy, oh yeah, and I'll be strong
We can get along, we can get along
Oh, if only you trust in me

While there's a moon, a moon on high
While there are birds, birds to fly
While there is you, you and I
I can be sure that I love you

Oh, stand beside me, stand beside me all the while
Come on Daddy, face the future, why don't you smile
Trust in me and I'll be worthy of you

Oh yeah, yeah, why don't you, you trust in me in all you do
And have the faith I, I have in you
Oh, and love will see us through
If only you trust in me
Yeah, yeah, yeah

Why don't you, you come to me when things go wrong
Cling to me and, whoa, and I'll be strong
We can get along, we can get along
Oh, if only you trust in me
Yeah, yeah

John, your youngest is 12? Solving this one may be more up to your W, because if she doesn't want to hear "that" name, she needs to decide whether this will also apply to son's innocent remarks. If so, son will have to be told that there's a rift there, and mom doesn't want to hear it. At that point, a smart pre-teen is going to wonder what's up. Kids of this age are more aware than we sometimes realize.

I think this is dangerous territory if you guys don't want son to know something's up. Mom may prefer to grin and bear it or find a way to leave the room when OW's name comes up.

just my opinion. worth what you've paid for it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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john,

ive followed most of your sitch and it is refreshing to see a ws work so hard. if i may i have a book to recommend. it is called "How to gain forgiveness and respect after your affair", its written by katie coston. it is a book that has to be downloaded from the internet. it only costs 10$.

this book was written by a bs for a ws. it is, besides harleys of course, one of the best books on how a ws can become a fws in very concise steps. written plainly and simply. she is a regular person who has been there...it really is good. i can try to e-mail you my copy. the bs isnt supposed to read this one...it is soley for the ws. she can read it later....lol

hang in and keep pluggin along....its a long process and one i know you can right if you stay the course.....good luck