This is my second day and I feel so releived having you all to come to. I have been doing something stupid lately. I have been checking on my husbands (previously ours, he doesn't know I can) checking account. I moved 6 weeks ago and it seems even though I don't know who the OW is for 100% I have a good idea and he won't admit anything. Well, his checking account is showing gas charges in the area of her home. and on the night he doesn't have the kids and then to find he is gone all night sometimes. Grrrrr going crazy today.... Ithought I was getting a handle on plan B but now I think this may be the real deal for him and I have no chance.

Don't let him know you are checking. I confronted my husband about the thousands he was spending, and all he did was deny it and change banks.

Did you do a good Plan A?

I tried plan A for about nine months, I thought I was great and he did too. Then he thought I was just faking and he didn't want to live a lie, so he says. He says he gave it a year (of prayer too, yea right all the while building a relationship with a "friend" at work, i think anyway) and based on 4-5 outburtst of anger in that time period he said things would never change and he wanted out he felt too controled, he's been so consientious of my feelings though in the process, maybe out of fear of retaliation at his place of employment where I think the OW works with him. I decided to give him his time out of respect because he said he always felt he had no choice whether to be together or not. So I moved 6 weeks ago.At first Plan B was going as planned then it about faced in the last 10 days and now he is not even interested in talking or anything else.