I only found out (for sure) about WH's affair Dec. 2nd, and have been DBing and using Marriage Builders since a couple of days later. He is living with OW he met at a job 700 miles away. It is killing me and I really hate him, but LOVE him so much. He hasn't even told our d(9) yet. It's going to kill her, but he says,"SHe'll be ok." They rationalize everybody else's pain and heartbreak so they can get what they want. SO selfish!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ta2mama:
<strong> I only found out (for sure) about WH's affair Dec. 2nd, and have been DBing and using Marriage Builders since a couple of days later. He is living with OW he met at a job 700 miles away. It is killing me and I really hate him, but LOVE him so much. He hasn't even told our d(9) yet. It's going to kill her, but he says,"SHe'll be ok." They rationalize everybody else's pain and heartbreak so they can get what they want. SO selfish! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> This all sucks. Read.....Read.....Read.....and then Read some more. Your WH affair will in all likelihood die eventually. The blueprint to staying married and getting through this is all here. Good luck.

LM (aka sourmale)

Thank you...It hurts so much I can't describe, but it seems that here, I don't have to describe it. Kindred souls, and all.

ta2mama,-
like LM said, read. come here to ask questions and to vent. there are many wonderful people here who can give you good advice. and you are correct, you don't have to describe hurt and pain here, we all know it.this is a good place to be in your position.it sucks to have to be here, but i am so thankful that i found this place. i don't know what i would have done w/out it. it is only 10 weeks since DD for me, so i am far from an expert. but the people here truly care about each other. welcome aboard <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> i will add you to my prayer list.
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