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He is 700 miles away living with OW, but he calls us almost everyday, to talk to our D. I was wondering if I should try to be provocative with him when he calls; he generally was receptive to that when he was still here. Would that seem manipulative? I don't view it that way, because I am merely doing something that we SHOULD have the freedom to do anyway, since we ARE married, but now this affair has caused even simple things like relating to my H to cause confusion! Am I even making any sense? And has anyone done something similar?? Thanks, TTM
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TTM,
Seduction - very powerful weapon. YOU might not think it's manipulative, but I guarantee that your H will. I tried it, it doesn't work.
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TTM,
You have to be careful with all your words and actions. The OW in my case convinced my WH, that when I say "I Love You", its my way of brainwashing him. So everytime I said "ILY" he became angry, thinking I was malipulating him and trying to control him. So I stoppped saying it even though I still love him even after all the pain he has cause me.
I don't know your story, but I live in NJ, and my WH moved all the way out to Las Vegas with the OW. It is so hard to fight for your marriage long distance with the OW feeding him lies.
The only situation you can control is yours, eventually (and I'm still waiting on this too) the OW will show her true colors and if you stay true to yourself he will see all the things that make you the beautiful person that you are.
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Well, MY WH was working in NJ and now that is where he has moved to!!! We live in Ga. SO don't take it personally but I don't have very fond feelings about NJ.
I feel sick thinking about what they are up to , what plans he is making, etc. I want our marriage to work but at the same time I am so sick of being lied to and tired of his Bulls#$%. He's been full of it for years, I just over looked it to stand by him. I am tired and it's only since Dec. 2 that I found out.
Thank you for your advice.
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