I just saw this as I was searching Page 3 and 4 for a newbie's last post. I almost missed it.
I have been thinking about you quite a bit, because I felt badly about the way I posted about you. I actually dared to attempt to argue your feelings about why you had your A! WTH??? Spidey must not have had her coffee that day! No, I have no excuse, just an apology.
The thread was by a "veteran" poster, about if the WS actually "chooses" between OP and BS. And you posted about that fact that your A was an exit-A.
I guess the reason I argued you, is because according to the "criteria" that I thought you and this poster were setting up (can't remember the poster's name, not trying to be sly or anything!) for exit-A's, that it would imply that my H was intending to exit the M, and didn't ~ like you.
I have a lot of beliefs about my M to my H, and many of those beliefs is what saved our M, IMO, because I stuck around and waited to see what would happen when the A died. BUT, those are my beliefs alone. And I apologize for questioning yours, trying to justify mine. If that makes any sense.
Thank you so much for calling me out, and giving me the opportunity to straighten out my feelings with regards to this issue. And all the more kudos to you and your W for being able to rebuild your M. Personally, I believe that almost any M can be rebuilt, if both partners are willing to work hard. Because there is a reason you both got married in the first place. Sometimes, people cannot find that reason again. For whatever motive you had, I give you my highest esteem and respect, because I believe the road to recovery is harder than that to D.
Again, thanks for calling me out. Peace to you. And Happy New Year!
Spidey
