this sucks
i feel like im the only person on earth alone for new years.
i feel like a total loser.
i have always had something to do on new years. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Well, let me remind you that you are NOT the only one alone on new year's.

Let's focus on the positive. First and foremost...God is ALWAYS with you. Just take a moment to say hi to him.

I gurantee you that all around you, in other houses, apartments, and motels...there are many others alone, going through hard times, divorce, seperations, fights, and good times.

You have your health and you have enough money to be sitting online at a computer and have internet connection. That's a lot to be thankful for. We also are dry and safe. Think how all the people half way across the world feel. All the millions and millions of people with no food and shelter.

Just for a moment think about them...I betchya they feel alone too.

I don't know why you are alone, but I betchya it's only temporarily.

Hugs,
Loving

Hey Dalson. So not true. I am sitting here alone too. BUt I am NOT a loser. I CHOOSE to take this time to reflect on what I want and NEED the New Year to bring for me and my family. And, what I need to do to make that happen. TO come up with a Plan.

I am taking this time for ME. To congratulate myself on doing my very best. AND for surviving the devastation my WH had inflicted and is inflicting on our M and our Family. And how proud I am of myself and my DD12. And how lucky I am to have the friends and family to support me and push me back on track when I fall. And last but not least. THis Board. It has kept me sane. Kept me from totally losing it or doing even more damage in this precarious sitch.

It is attitude, man. I make lists of the things I have accomplished and what I want to do yet. Give yourself a pat on the back. YOu deserve it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

God BLess.

you are NOT the only one alone on new year's

Nope, I'm alone, too. My kids are teens. One is working until 11pm and then probably out with friends. The other is 15, just left with her boyfriend, and has instructions to be home no later than 1am (though it's anyone's guess if she'll actually obey--odds are not in my favor).

So it's me...and my two dogs...and a cat...and a gerbil...and two painted turtles...and a fish. (Everything past the dogs really doesn't provide much company).

However--I am actually looking forward to the quiet. I just spent big bucks at the grocery store buying ingredients for some Asian dishes I want to try, though as late as it is, I think I'll jump into that tomorrow.

I might watch a DVD, I might work on recording off some more of my old VCR tapes on my DVD recorder. I might just take a long, relaxing soak in a bath-salt filled tub.

Point is...sure, you are lonely. If I were honest, I am too. I'd rather be spending my night laughing and enjoying the company of a special someone and ringing in the new year with a kiss from them, rather than one from my dogs.

But on the other hand, there are lot worse ways of spending New Year's Eve than just sitting alone in a home.

Hang in there. Try to find some things to look forward to in the coming year.

LL

I sit here alone also. Course I am not really alone. I sit here holding my sweet baby girl. She is almost five weeks old. I was sitting here thinking about my WH. I realize he may say it doesn't bother him. Act like he has no guilt. But I know differently. He is the one who has to lay down to sleep tonight and think about the pain he is causing his children and myself. He has to think about the man he has become.

I can sleep fine knowing I am doing all I can. I am the one here being responsible for three children while he is running off like some horny teenager. I am the one showing our kids love and stablity. He has done many things he will one day regret. I on the other hand can sit here tonight and feel at peace with myself. I have not hurt anyone. I feel sorry for him actually. His eyes are so blind he cannot even see the man he has become.

You are not alone. Many of us are in the same situation and we will make it through. I look forward to the coming year. 2004 I can say was the worst year of my life. Now is my chance to make 2005 a better year. With or without my husband by my side.

Take care. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

You are definately not alone - here I sit in front of my computer as the final hours of 2004 tick away - by myself. I am not feeling really depressed, just sad. I am mourning my marriage.

If anyone is on here from So. Cal, and hs nothing to do tonight - email me....

Happy New Years to all of you....and especially we BS's sitting alone for the 1st time...


TM

it really sucks
though i know im not the only one but.
it is just bad my g-father died this am, my sons 4th b-day, new years eve, waa waa waa

yes i would like some cheese with my wine <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

i dont know. all my friends that keep me occupied are out of town.

my 1st real taste of alone.....

What kind of cheese do you like? I like provolone !! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

im from texas
we all like longhorn cheddar or colby cheese here.

thanks.
this board has been my only link to sanity the last couple of months. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Can't stand Swiss though... To smelly


Yes I know what you mean. I think I live at these boards to much. But so many people have helped me though some bad stuff. And I continue to get stronger each day. I know we will be ok. Just hurts that someone we trusted and loved can be so cruel and selfish.

and stupid <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Happy New Year.

Everyone we made it all its new year 2005.

Well, how about this. I was with some people, but felt alone. My STBX/WW was with her boyfriend, she even lied to her mother in order to sneak off and be with him. I picture the two of them curled up in his bed in his mommy and daddy's basement holding each other. I hope she is happy. She tore this family apart, has lied to herself, me her family, but "he's just a friend" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Yes, HATE LOVE we did make it. This year has got to be better than last year, right?

LWIT, nice to hear from ya again. Hope things are going well for you still.

MIF

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mif
that sucks
im sorry to hear ssdd for you.
my ww spent the whole day w/ me. stil foggy as he11, she actually cried and said she loved me so much, but that i will never hurt her again.
i reverse babbled her a$$ off.no lb's. she left my son and took daughter w her is coming over in the am to go to church. this fog crap is starting to get a little thinner. but she still says she needs her healing time in order to give me a fair chance.

WW called me after the count down and she said she just want to say Happy New Year. And I told her the same thing Happy New Year then good bye thats all.

But w/o REDHAT I am probably drunk and wasted for new years day. I made it w/o ALCOHOL, and fell sleep around 3am. Tired from lifting weights from MIDNIGHT after count down to get out from thinking being alone.

WE ALL MADE IT folks to all, I can assure you WS year is over this is our year 2005, its getting better alone.