Can't bring her to reality. You need t/b there for you and your children.

Can you get your children to some IC or ask the MC for some references for children?

Ask your children to write down their thoughts, feelings or even a letter to their mom expressing themselves. Reassure them of YOUR love and loyalty to them. Let them know YOU will NOT abandon them.

Don't answer for your WS. Redirect their questions that you feel you can't answer from them about her to her. Let them know you have your opinion but if they need their mom's POV, they need to ask her. She may or may not give it to them or even be truthful but they need to see it.

Mine did even at 6 years old.

L.

OK here's the update: I got real ticked at her for blaming DS for being angry at HER, told her several things she needed to hear, and then ( I know, don't do things when you are upset) I exposed the A to those folks emailing to her at our house. I adapted the lines Orchid gave me a little:

I regret to inform you that you cannot contact WW at this email address, she has decided to abandon her family to pursue a personal affair. she can be reached at blah blah@blah blah.blah

well she was mad the next morning when a collegue showed her the email, she said HE told her that it was inappropriate, and that I was an a$$. LOL

I told her that I could care less about this person's opinion, and that I only told the truth.

so my next question is???

How do I get back to making deposits without looking like a total hypocrate, I didn't feel good after sending the email, but I am glad that her A is fully exposed.