Hi, Octobergirl. And everyone else. You all got me through a night that I can barely remember, I was so panicked and so angry.
It wasn't a complete disaster. But it was darn close! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
I called the house when I was nearby. L, (my now ex-friend) answered. When I asked for WH, she said he was not there. I said I will be there in 5 minutes. When I drove up WH was outside having a smoke. He told me to go home. I told him I was here to take DD for breakfast as I had promised. WH said “she’s still sleeping" I said “I’ll wait". When I went to go inside, the door was locked! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
I was going to go around the house to the deck and knock there but that would have cause a huge scene. As I needed details, I wasn’t quite ready to do that. I called L on my cell. She wouldn’t answer. HMMM.
All this time WH is smirking at me. All proud and happy with himself. As if he had gotten something over on me. HE told me that DD did not want to go out with me. WTH?
So, I said I would wait right there. It was snowing and cold but it was under cover. I told him that he was unfit to be a father as he left his DD alone on New Year’s Eve while he was with the adulteress. And DD could not reach him. WH told me that DD was okay with all of that as she had talked to him. AND that I was the one panicking her. HUH? She called me! WH doesn’t think he did anything wrong. I asked him to answer one question. Did WH take OW to the Dragon Boat dinner. His response? “what if I did?†I said it was a Yes/No answer. His response? “what if I did?†He told me he had given DD the option of going to the dinner as there were lots of other kids there. I was furious. I said “DD would not go to the dinner because OW was there you a$$ You are giving her impossible choices. You are the adult. You cannot ask her to be either polite to OW. (Yes he told her if they “accidentally†meet, that DD
must be polite to OW). DD knows that OW is helping to break up her family†WH said “only because you told her†WTH?
As he stood there smirking, I slowly walked up to him, thinking thank God I have no gun! I was in his face. Now he is 6’3†230lbs or so and I am 5’9†135 lbs so there is a bit of a difference in body mass. I asked him again about the Dragon Boat dinner. He said it was none of my business! I said we are still married you DF and it is my business.
Sigh. Then I punched him in the face. Sigh. A few times. Sigh. Now, I wasn’t expecting that of myself at all. I have NEVER hit anyone in my entire 53 years of life. I hate physical violence. WH took off his glasses and said “Hit me again so I can charge you†Good psychology. That stopped me. I grabbed his face between my 2 hands like I was going to kiss him and said “No, I won’t. NO matter how much you deserve to have you’re a$$ kicked†And walked to the car. I went to the hatch and opened it. I was on auto-pilot. I reached for a metal baseball bat. At that point sanity came back. Thank God! I was actually going to start swinging at WH. I said “No I won’t do that†I was really telling myself to get a grip. WH said “go aheadâ€. He didn’t know that I was talking about the bat. He thought I was going to go back and smack him again with my hands as he couldn’t see what was in the car. Sheesh! That was too close. I am embarrassed but not regretful. Not MB PC, I know. But, dam, I felt better.
I then sat and smoked a few more cigarettes and called L again only this time, I *67ed the phone. She answered. I said, “L, I am waiting outside the front door for DD, As WH has locked me out, I will wait here until she gets up.†L said "do you want me to wake her?" I said yes. (Do you see how this is adding up to the fact she is not my friend. As I write this long update, you will see other things that she said, and did, that make it plain that she is my enemy now. Feel free to tell me that I am too suspicious)
DD came down and WH said “Oh DD you are still tired, go back to bed†I said, "I will wait for you until you get up." I followed her through the door as she went back inside. When I got upstairs, I said Hello to L and her man.
They acted like nothing unusual had just occurred. I got myself some coffee and we chatted. When L and her man went outside to have a smoke, I came right out and asked them both if WH had brought OW to the Dragon Boat event. L’s response? “I didn’t see her. There were so many people there.†Now, I don’t know if you caught that. Let me explain. L’s response seems to indicate that she already knew what the OW looked like. HOw would she know that unless she has seen her before? She didn’t say that WH wasn’t with anyone. HHMMMM. Paranoia? I don’t think so.
Later, WH left for a while. I was going to pack his crap and throw it on OWs front lawn. But decided that was too much ammo for WH about my craziness. I spoke to L and asked her if it was time yet for WH to much out and deal with his issues by himself. Her response? “Oh, no. I told WH that he and DD can stay at least until the end of the school year†Now, I don’t know if y’all remember that I have had a suspicion all along that L has a crush on WH. WH has stayed there without paying rent for over a year!
I said, “Well, L you are enabling his behaviour. And that is not right. We are still married and he won’t deal with our issues while he has a place to hide. Things are going to get even uglier before they get better and this is not helping. And, I don’t want to drag you into this. But I will, if necessary.†(On top of that, DD is only there for 2 weeks. Then she will be with me!I didn't say that, out loud)
GGRRRR!. Anyway DD and I went to visit friends so we could speak on neutral ground away from the drama and prying ears and eyes. My friends offered to have DD stay there until I got there and then with me as I am staying with them until I find a place for us. (SIL also said she would take DD and make sure that WH only saw her for supervised visits.)
I asked DD about what WH had said about her being Okay with his “dating, etc†She was adamant that she had told him that she was NOT okay. And that was why she didn’t want to go to the Dragon Boat event. And that she had told him that she wanted him home with her on New Year’s Eve. UH DUH. I knew that but WH denies it still.
Well, I drove her back and WH and I talked for a few minutes. Then I went back home.
Lessons learned:
1. Never go to meet WH when you have a potential weapon in the car.
2. Take a friend if you think things could get ugly.
3. Never trust so-called friends.
4. Be on guard at all times.
5. Know your real friends.
6. Never, ever believe a WS. They are such liars and twist the truth to suit their self-absorbed needs.
<small>[ January 02, 2005, 09:47 AM: Message edited by: fightingalone-again ]</small>
