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After a month of being separated with my wh--I let him come over to see the kids and give them xmas.
We cried in the new year -- he is so sorry blah blah -- he is trying to figure out what how this all happened blah blah-- He actually sounded like my H in many ways --but he is still seeing the OW.
We stayed up until 5am and he went to kiss me good bye -- and well we got pretty hot and heavy. We didn't go all the way (am I 16!!) because we new it just confuse our situation.
I still think I want to go through with a DV - u know if I just had the guts I should do a plan B. I just don't know if he is worth it --it feels so good to be out of the chaos. Not worrying where he is doing or with who. I don't feel bad about what we did at all and I think it may have given him hope.
Am I crazy to maybe just want to have him around to fix things and give me so good sf?
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tdr, what have you got to lose by trying a plan b? The worst that could happen is you will still end up D'd and the best that you get your WS back.
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Its my twisted thinking of wanting SF and getting things fixed - not liking conflict or anybody 'hating me'. Hel! I was even nice to the OW for most of the year. I seem to do everthing the hard way. I guess I should get off this site since I never follow the great advice given.
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tdr, don't leave just because you have trouble following the concepts. YOu can only go at your own pace with what you are comfortable with. There are many though that waited too long to implement plan B and I am concerned with the direction you are taking. Wouldn't you rather have your H back than getting occasional SF and things repaired? Sorry I don't know too much about your sitch. Hopefully someone more experienced will come along soon.
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tdr,
I would have to agree with FF in that your Dday was March. That is a long time, as you said your already thinking about a Dv so why not try Plan B. This is actually a good time, since your last meeting got kinda exciting. That is a good time to cut him off and move to Plan B. Then you can still take care of yourself and not worry about your WH.
Just my thoughts,
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