Here's a reply I recieved when I posted my situation on the Emotional Needs board...
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "I think that you should move forward as though your H is having an affair....because he is. Please post on the GQII board and start doing Plan A. There are some great vets there that will help you navigate these rough waters. I'll bet you any amount of money that his interest in this gf is fueling his disinterest in the marriage."</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here's the story... please help
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I have previously posted on here under a different name but here is my situation. My H and I have been married for 7 months. My H is 30, I am 25 and we now have a 2 month old baby girl. My H, in Oct, told me he no longer loves me and was hesitant that our relationship would work out. After 4 sessions with the counselor, my H says our relationship will not workout and us getting married was the biggest mistake he has ever made. He assured me, when we got married, that it was not because of the baby but now it is.
After the baby was born, I had one conversation with him about how he felt. His feelings didn't change and me bringing up the conversation was not a good time since his mother came to visit, for a week, to help with the baby. Since that conversation I longer communicate with him. It was never easy communicating with him before and everytime I tried it was always the wrong time.
Also during that conversation I brought up the fact that I saw his cell phone bill and noticed his ex-gf's number. He would talk to her and erase the dialed/missed call from his phone. I asked if he still had feedings for her, he said "I still think about her." I have not checked his phone since then. Right after Christmas I noticed the ex-gf called 2 times when my H didn't have his phone w/him... I was curious, so I looked to see if there was any communication between the 2 of them. She left him 2 text msg and called 3 times in 1 day. Why was she so pressed to talk to him? It seems as if this ex-gf has an effect on him. Her parents are divorced making my H think that our baby will be fine if we are separated. Who knows what else she is saying. Is this something I should be worried about? I want to call her, should I (since my H won't say much)?
We live together like we are an old married couple. I don't communicate with him so we don't argue and he never communicates with me. He seems fine with our situation but I'm fed up. I'm trying to come up with a plan on my own and also started seeing a counselor by myself. I'm mad that he does not want to work on our marriage yet he wants to have the best life for our baby. What should I do next? See if he will continue counseling? My thoughts are to have him move out and figure out what he wants with his ex-gf. Then i'll struggle to take care of the baby and work full time.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
