i wear my ring. my BH is not.

he used to always wear it until he broke his wrist that was about 7 months before d-day. with the A over and me wanting to re-commit, i took his ring and had it engraved with a msg inside of it and gave it to him for xmas last year, (this was 3 months before d-day). he started wearing it then (the cast was off and the swelling down) but after d-day he took it off and has not put it back on.

i have asked about it as gently as possible, letting him know that i hope he would wear it again someday. he says he is not sure he ever will, he says that even if i didn't have any A, he might feel that way. but after 18yrs of wearing it, i can only conclude he is not wearing it because of my betrayals and not because he has suddendly decided it is uncomfortable. i've offered to have it re-sized if that would help. i have also told him i would love to buy him a new one. he really didn't want to spend any $$ on his ring when we got married so his is very plain.

at this point i figure i should not mention it. i believe he knows i would like him to wear it. i will just have to trust him that he will try to eventually be comfortable wearing it again someday.

any BH's have any thoughts to share about if i should or should not ever bring it up again?

My FWH wore his ring off and on for our entire M. He would casually take it off nad leave it on a shelf, sink, etc... Every time I saw it I would take myine off and place it next to it. I told him many times (gently) that it bothered me he did not wear his ring, but it SEEMED so casual that he took it off I didn't get mad. He said he wasn't used to wearing jewelry.

After D-day I wore mine for awhile, but after false recovery and a move to Plan B I took mine off. After REAL recovery began last August I put my ring back on...a few weeks later I was at work and noticed my ring was not on my finger...still don't know where it is...(it was loose, so could have fallen off ANYWHERE). H surprised me last anniversary with a trip to the jewelers where we bought new matching rings. Since then I've never seen it off his finger. He says he takes it off form time to time to clean it or when he's working on wiring, but I never see it laying about the house any longer...interesting.....