I was wondering if anyone else felt like I do.
I just can believe all the good publicity Amber Frey has received over being an adultress. Nor can I believe how much money she will make telling her sick story. Just needed to vent.

My understanding [albeit limited as I have not followed closely..so let me know if I am incorrect] is that she did not know he was married..and that she aided the prosecution by coming foreward.

If she truly did not know he was married [and he is the personality type to be able to pull this off] then what is she supposed to be accountable for?

Can you even imagine the horror? Discovery that not only is your BF married..he is also a cold blooded killer. YIKES!

Maybe there is some variable that I am not aware of?

Noodle

<small>[ January 03, 2005, 09:42 PM: Message edited by: noodle ]</small>

Hi holiday,

I haven't really kept up with all the articles about the situation, but the way I understand it, Amber didn't know Scott was married until the news stories broke out about Laci's disappearance. He lied to her, and I think he told her his wife was dead even before she turned up missing!

Rose

<small>[ January 03, 2005, 09:45 PM: Message edited by: Rose55 ]</small>

It's just that I get a strange feeling after reading "her story" where she stated: "I was introduced to him. I was told he was unmarried." Like it really had to be noted he was "unmarried" for her to date him.
I just feel there is more to her story than she's telling. Her side of the story sure took her off the co defendant list.
Peterson may have been in the A "fog" over Amber which may have drove him to commit something he may have not planned to do or planned to do because of his A.
I just don't feel a person should make any money over such a tragic situation.
And if you were to make any money, how about donating it to a greater cause than yourself?

The way I see it..

It's up to the prosecutors to make their case..if they didn't have one against AF [and I'll bet they looked hard given the circumstances] then neither you nor I will ever know. On the books..she's innocent.

It's none of my business what she does with her story.

It's none of my business what she does with her money.

[shrugs]

Noodle

holiday,

Probably only psychiatrists could figure out what drove Scott to behave the way he did, and he might be a mystery even to them!

I imagine publishers approached Amber with large sums of money and she couldn't resist. It does disturb me that anyone would take advantage of such a horrible situation to make money - including the publishers. People will buy it, though, and that's what keeps the stories coming!

Rose

Probably so. I just had worked in the judicial system for sometime and it's amazing the stories that are created to CYA.
Thanks for responding.

If I recall correctly, they first met on a blind date. She did not know he was married.

Well it certainly doesn't say much for her character since she said she went to bed with a guy she didn't really know?!?!?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I know this is quite commonplace but it doesn't make it a smart thing t/d.

IMHO, she is stupid. She took the chance and hooked up with a loser. At the time, she looked like she was on top of the world and having fun.

Can't tell if she would have cared if she knew he was married or not, 'if' Lacy did not die. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

See you never know what kind of OW she really was. Yes, she was misled but she allowed herself to be in that position (and a few others for that matter). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Should she profit off of it? IMHO, no. It was her being an OW that gave her that notarity. It was her acts that contributed to the fog which kept both her and Scott going in the A.

Is she fully to blame? No. But she is not a victim. She is a voluntary accompice to the A that was not informed she became an accessory to a murder.

Was she used? Yes, some. Did she use? Yes.

Therefore, for someone to profit in any manner from the death of 2 innocent persons is inhumane. Will she? Probably. Unfortunately the embaressing part of the human nature is that people enjoy reading about this kind of sick thing. Look at the sales of novels.....aren't most of them based on greed, corruption and lust? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

The $$ s/b better sent to help Lacy's family or others who are true victims.

To Mz Frey: You should be more selective and probably ask for advice from someone willing to do more thorough checking before you shed your clothes. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

JMHO,
L.

See you never know what kind of OW she really was. Yes, she was misled but she allowed herself to be in that position (and a few others for that matter). [Roll Eyes]

Orchid I didn't know my ex BF was married for eight months after I started going with him, and that is the honest to God truth. I even went on vacation with my daughter and his 17 yr old daughter who never let on. None of his other kids ever let on either. No body in my town or my life had any idea.

I used to blame myself for it, but you know what - not any more. I did not allow myself to be in that position, I did not know so how can it be my fault?

Will I hire a PI or get hard cold proof, before or if I ever fall in love again? Yes, absolutely but at that time I had no reason to doubt him, no reason to suspect, and I also hadn't spent any time on MB learning about a how deceptive people really can be.

It still blows my mind to think someone would go to such lengths to "get" somebody to go out with and fall in love with them, when they are already married.

Amber was a victim of a cold hearted con man and killer...a physchopath. And I imagine she will never be the same.

About the book...no opinion. I won't buy it though.

<small>[ January 04, 2005, 05:43 AM: Message edited by: weaver ]</small>

Again, accountable for what? Based on my lmited observation, she should be commended for wearing the wire that was instrumental in convicting that pond scum.

I'm with weaver on this one 100%.

I guess I should be held accountable for marrying a nut case, huh? Didn't know it at the time, but should have been able to figure it out, perhaps.

Amber helped the prosecution...heck she even allowed them to tape her phone calls so they could use Peterson's own voice against him...

So, she allowed Scott to believe the A was continuing, when it wasn't...virtuous or not? Tough to say. It wasn't honest, but necesary to catch him in lies. It was the time he was telling her he was in "Paris" when he was really home dealing with the media.

If Amber Frey profits from this situation, who is more responsible?
-Amber?
-Publishing firm paying her the big bucks?
-American public who has demonstrated it will pay for that sort of book?

Why shouldn't she profit from it?

Actually, I don't have a reason she shouldn't profit from it. But I'd like those who are uncomfortable with her profit and directing their ire at her to consider that there's a whole sea of people that are making this situation possible. Directing the negativity at her alone simply ignores the facts of a free market system.

I really dont care about her profitting. I am not going to buy the book.

But what is interesting is the fact that Amber is where so many of us have been.

She is either guilty of knowlingly having sex with a married man (adultery). Or at the very least, she is guilty of having sex out side of a marital relationship.

You see, God outlined that adultery is wrong. But He also said that fornication is also. I am guilty of that in my past. But one thing thru all of this that I have refused to do is go that route now. Even if my marriage had not of worked out, I would not be involved sexually with anyone that is not my wife.

We humans are so stupid sometimes. We want to say "well, get with it. It's 2004, and people do it. There is no harm." well, if Amber had held her ground and told Scott "no sex until marriage..." guess what? She probably wouldnt be in the mess she is.

When we try to do it our way, instead of God's way...it gets messed up EVERY TIME!! Sleeping with someone who is not your husband is as wrong to God as sleeping with someone else's husband. To God, there is no difference.

In His arms.

We watched a program night before last on the Scott Peterson case. I learned that Amber recently gave birth to a child by another man outside of marriage. So, I would say being a single parent to two kids now that she just does not have good judgement. 'Nuff said.

<small>[ January 04, 2005, 09:07 AM: Message edited by: faithful follower ]</small>

Amber may have (finally) done the right thing by helping the cops catch her psycho boyfriend, but look at her past history:

She's posted nude pics of herself on the Internet.

She works as a "massage therapist," renting space in a shop. Whatever.

Her first child has no father listed on the birth certificate. Word is that that's because the man was married.

She went to bed on the first date with Scotty Peterson, a man she was "told" was unmarried. Translation: She didn't care if he was married or not.

Her second child's father is a chiropractor who may or may not have been married -- this was never made clear. However, he does seem to be shacking up with Amber now.

As Orchid says, this woman put herself in the position to be used by a married man more than once and did not seem to care. She may have finally done the right thing once she was painted into a corner and terrified of her new boyfriend, but she was incredibly stupid, selfish and short-sighted up to that point.

Oh, and how nice it must have been for Laci's mother to see Amber in the courthouse with *her* baby, while Laci and her baby ended up at the bottom of the bay. Scott's wife never got to hold her child, but his OW sure did. How nice for all of them.

Yech.

Mulan

Orchid and Mulan...exactly what I meant.
People just don't get the justice system these days.
Prosectution cut her a deal!!! Bottomline and now she's even making money on it!

I think many of you are displacing your feelings towards your OW on Amber Frey. Some of your posts are mighty presumptious and judgemental. Get a grip here please.